The source of all of your unhappiness is in your own mind. Excuse me, Dr. Cheryl?! It may sound harsh, but it’s true. Our expectations about how we think things should be, how we want things to be, how we believe things should go in our life… Those are expectations, not reality. And reality is a bitch. It’s one of the toughest aspects of being alive.
Today on Sex, Love, and Elephants I’m talking about your expectations vs the real world - and how much this can hurt your relationship! Have you ever noticed that your expectations and reality often clash in a major way?
It can be difficult to accept that things won’t always go your way—in fact, I still have to work on it myself sometimes. We all have expectations, we all have plans, and we all have desires… There are ways we want things to go and reality often has other ideas. You can be angry and vindictive all you want, but in the end, you’re only prolonging your own suffering.
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
I recently had an airplane trip from hell - my expectations were certainly not met! But…I adjusted to relaity and made lemonade from the lemons…(02:12)
Be nice to the people who just happen to be bystanders when reality fails to meet your wishes (10:23)
Be kind to yourself, your mind, and your partner when reality isn’t going your way (14:27)
You can always change the story you’re making up about your partner and change your expectations (16:58)
Happiness or unhappiness is completely up to us (21:26)
Today’s LoveByte (22:07)
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