Listen to this Whinypaluza Wednesday Live vlog episode with The Greene Family! An extension of the weekly blog, join Rebecca and her family on the live vlog, brought to you here in case you missed it last week! Rebecca talks about the 15 lessons she has learned so far in 15 years of motherhood.
This week: Lessons In Motherhood This Year
Shift the focus on yourself and how you react. This is what you actually have control over.
You will continue to make mistakes. Being a good mom means always working on being better, not being perfect. Think of it as leveling up.
Take a step back. Learn to recognize when to let your kids handle their own problems and responsibilities. Stepping in when it isn’t good enough for you undermines their ability to learn how to manage themselves.
Your kids will always need you. As they become more and more independent, they still need you to love them and to be there.
Don’t underestimate your kids, and what they are capable of. Give them the room to grow into themselves.
You can’t be everywhere, all the time. As much as you want to be at every even for every kid, you need to choose and you need to allow others to be there.
You can’t volunteer for everything. Volunteers ARE needed, but don’t sacrifice your time when it is needed elsewhere in your personal life.
Everything doesn’t have to be perfect all the time. Again, give your children the agency to take control of learning how to do things.
It is ok for your kids to be upset. It is normal and you need to let your kids feel the full spectrum of feelings. Learning to cope with uncomfortable emotions is important.
Listen more and say less. Embrace “less is more” when it comes to communication. Sometimes being brief and concise is better.
Focus more on the good in your kids, than the bad. Look for the good behavior and be their cheerleader. You will always see what you look for. If you look for bad, that is all you will notice.
Your child’s life is theirs to live, not yours. Allow some agency for your kids to choose their activities, interests, friends, career, etc.
The importance of one-on-one time with each of your kids. Learn to balance the time you give to each of your children. Give your time, even if it is only 15 minutes a day.
It is ok to force family fun. Oftentimes you will always get a “no” if you ask, so sometimes they need a nudge. Once they are out, they usually have a good time.
Every stage of motherhood is exciting. Instead of mourning the passage of time, embrace the great privilege you have to witness every milestone.
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