Listen to this Whinypaluza Wednesday Live vlog episode with The Greene Family! An extension of the weekly blog, join Rebecca and her family on the live vlog, brought to you here in case you missed it last week!
Here is what to expect on this week’s show- are you making any of these common mistakes?
Self-Care is selfish. It is NOT selfish, it is NECESSARY. You have to take care of yourself in order to take care of others.
Thinking you need to entertain your kids around the clock. It is important for them to have downtime and be able to entertain themselves.
Thinking your children are not listening to you. They hear you and process what you are saying. Not complying does not mean they don’t listen. Learn to be less reactive.
Telling them instead of showing them. Be a good example and practice what you preach.
Parenting from a place of reactivity. When you are reactive and upset, your family and kids will tune out. It is ineffective. Pause, regroup, reset, and approach the topic in a calmer place.
Putting your kids first all the time. Beyond basic needs, you must take care of yourself first, so you are healthy and able to take care of others. You must take care of your marriage, so your kids have a stable foundation. THEN, you take care of your kids.
Giving THINGS instead of TIME. Stop buying them presents, and gift them with your presence. Your time and attention are far more valuable.
Nagging and constantly talking about problems with your children. You want your kids to want to come to you to talk about important things, so make sure you have regular conversations, too. Balance it out.
Feeling guilty about your parenting. Working, stay-at-home, making money, not making money. Stop feeling guilty about what you choose. Be where you are and put energy into what you are doing, and embrace it.
Doing everything for your children. They need to learn how to do things. Learn to let go of the control and be patient as they learn how to do things well and correctly. Eventually, it will be a benefit to everyone. These are life skills they need.
Taking your kids’ behavior personally. Their behavior is complex and likely about someone or something else. Take time to listen and understand and give them space.
Being punitive. Corrective measures are far more effective than punitive measures. Children will be more likely to make better choices if they aren’t always doing things out of fear of punishment. Learning the consequences of their choices and actions is important.
Trying to parent alone. You need support! Whether it is a spouse, family, or friends, you need to use your resources when you are stretched thin.Parenting is about you. If you think your child will turn out the way you want, and follow the path you lay out for them, you will find yourself very disappointed and frustrated. Parenting is about caring for the child you have, not the child you want to have.
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