Going through a divorce—especially one you didn’t want—is one of the hardest challenges a woman can face. Women experience heartbreak, uncertainty, and overwhelming emotions. It’s normal to feel lost. Here are some comforting Bible verses concerning divorce.
So if you’re suffering from your husband’s choices, that you may not be aware of. You’re also healing from years of emotional abuse. To see if you experienced any one of these 19 different types of emotional abuse, take our free emotional abuse quiz.
“Do not be afraid; you will not be put to shame. Do not fear disgrace; you will not be humiliated. You will forget the shame of your youth and remember no more the reproach of your widowhood.”
Even if you’re husband has lied to you and harmed you, you’re not worthless. Because you are a daughter of God experiencing oppression and abuse. Then to learn more about this type of abuse, listen to The FREE Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast.
“For your Maker is your husband—the Lord Almighty is his name—the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the earth.”
While you may grieve the loss of your husband’s role in your life, know that God is your constant provider and protector. He will stand by you, offering comfort and strength as you rebuild.
“For a brief moment I abandoned you, but with deep compassion I will bring you back. In a surge of anger I hid my face from you for a moment, but with everlasting kindness I will have compassion on you,” says the Lord your Redeemer.
This verse acknowledges the depth of your pain, but also assures you that God will lead you to resources that can help you. To learn more about how Christ wants us to deal with dangerous people, enroll in The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Living Free Workshop.
“Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be removed,” says the Lord, who has compassion on you.
Even when life feels like it’s crumbling, God’s love is steady and unshakable. In fact He promises peace that surpasses understanding, even in the midst of heartache.
“You will be established in righteousness; tyranny will be far from you; you will have nothing to fear. Terror will be far removed; it will not come near you.”
Also this verse offers reassurance that God is leading you to a place of safety and peace. He will protect you and strengthen you to walk forward with confidence.
“No weapon forged against you will prevail, and you will refute every tongue that accuses you. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord, and this is their vindication from me,” declares the Lord.
This verse reminds us that God is by your side. He is fighting for you and will bring justice in His perfect timing.
“Afflicted city, lashed by storms and not comforted, I will rebuild you with stones of turquoise, your foundations with lapis lazuli. I will make your battlements of rubies, your gates of sparkling jewels, and all your walls of precious stones.”
This verse speaks of restoration and beauty. God has a plan to rebuild your life, piece by piece, into something stronger and more beautiful than before.
These verses from Isaiah are here to encourage you in moments of doubt, grief, or despair. Lean into God’s promises and trust that His love and peace will carry you through. If you need more support or just someone who gets what you’re going through, remember there’s a whole community of women ready to walk beside you. Attend a Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Session TODAY.
God loves you. Although He’s still writing your story. Keep moving forward—you are stronger than you think!
Anne: If women go to the Bible and look in the index and try to find the word abuse, the likelihood of finding it is not high. So consider searching the Bible for other words that actually describe abuse. For example, widows. You are effectively a widow because of your husband’s choices. Even if you’re still married. Our Savior, Jesus Christ, loves widows. If you look up widow or widowhood in the index, you’ll find some Bible verses concerning divorce.
Wickedness is another one to look up. You’ll see lying, deceit, double minded as wicked behaviors. That’s describing abuse. Along those same lines, you’ll see that God continually talks about separating ourselves from wickedness. Modern context, that may be divorce. Or it may be separation. So instead of trying to find the exact word “divorce” when searching the scriptures, consider searching for traits your husband has. For example, is a liar?
A long time ago, I did an episode where I read verses from Isaiah. And so many of you messaged me and told me that you listened to it over and over, and it helped you feel peaceful. So here’s that recording from long ago.
Anne: This is from Isaiah chapter 54. Listen to these Bible verses concerning divorce.”Fear not, for thou shalt not be ashamed: neither be thou confounded; for thou shalt not be put to shame: for thou shalt forget the shame of thy youth, and shalt not remember the reproach of thy widowhood anymore.” I’m going to say that one more time.
“And shall not remember the reproach of thy widowhood anymore. For thy Maker is thine husband; the Lord of hosts is his name, thy Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel: The God of the whole earth… For the Lord hath called thee as a woman forsaken and grieved in spirit, and a wife of youth, when thou wast refused, saith thy God.”
“For a small moment have I forsaken thee; but with great mercies will I gather thee. In a little wrath I hid my face from thee for a moment, but with everlasting kindness will I have mercy on thee, saith the Lord thy Redeemer. For this is as the waters of Noah unto me: for as I have sworn that the waters of Noah should no more go over the earth; so have I sworn that I would not be wroth with thee, nor rebuke thee.”
These are more Bible verses about what God says about abuse. “For the mountains shall depart, and the hills be removed; but my kindness shall not depart from thee, neither shall the covenant of my peace be removed, saith the Lord that hath mercy on thee. O thou afflicted, tossed with tempest, and not comforted, behold, I will lay thy stones with fair colors, and lay thy foundations with sapphires.”
“And I will make thy windows of agates, and thy gates of carbuncles, and all thy borders of pleasant stones. All thy children shall be taught of the Lord; and great shall be the peace of thy children. In righteousness shalt thou be established: thou shalt be far from oppression; for thou shalt not fear: and from terror; for it shall not come near thee.”
“Behold, they shall surely gather together, but not by me: whosoever shall gather together against thee shall fall for thy sake. Behold, I have created the smith that bloweth the coals in the fire, and that bringeth forth an instrument for his work; and I have created the waster to destroy. No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper;”
“and every tongue that shall rise against thee in judgment thou shalt condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord, and their righteousness is of me, saith the Lord.”
Anne: I love Isaiah. I’ve always loved Isaiah. This brought me so much peace this morning as I was studying these Bible verses concerning divorce. And then I took some time to talk about how I personally felt about God and how God had helped me. It kind of bore my testimony of my belief in God. If you don’t want to listen to that, just skip this episode. If that interests you, again, this is from that podcast episode so long ago.
Growing close to God is so important to me, because He’s the only person that can help me through this mess that I didn’t cause. I find comfort through the scriptures and through prayer. And I do want to say that there was a nine month period where I read my scriptures and prayed about what to do about my addict husband. I felt hopeless and despair. I felt awful, but I continued to pray and read the scriptures. The parts that stand out to me are isaiah 54:4. “And thou shalt not remember the reproach of thy widowhood anymore.”
Meaning, we may be widows, but all the trials that go along with that will be made right somehow. Which by the way, I have not seen in my own life yet. And I don’t even know what that means. But it does bring me peace that here a prophet talks specifically about that. And then in verse 5 He says “For thy maker is thine husband;” I think about all the things I wish I had, a husband to protect my family and to provide for us.
Anne: And I realize that God can be that person for me during this time of my widowhood, that I can have a provider and a protector, and that if I turn to God and trust him, he has promised me those things.
Verse six, here is what God says about boundaries in marriage, “For the Lord hath called thee as a woman forsaken and grieved in spirit, and a wife of youth, when thou wast refused,” This is a woman who is grieved and forsaken, and she’s been refused. Your husband harmed you through no fault of your own. You’ve been rejected. And then in verse seven, “For a small moment have I forsaken thee; but with great mercies, I will gather thee.”
I think the small moment for me was nine months of praying and getting no answers, praying and getting no comfort. I remember going in my closet and just bawling because the pain was so excruciating. It was an awful time. And now I feel his peace. In verse 8 he says, “In a little wrath I hid my face from thee for a moment; but with everlasting kindness will I have mercy on thee,”
Then verse 9, he talks about Noah and how the waters of Noah should no more go over the earth. I think this is an interesting verse to put here. The flood that Noah experienced is similar to the plague of abuse and pornography. It is everywhere, it touches everything. And then he tells us in 10, That “the mountains shall depart and the hills will be removed;”
This means huge, big things will happen in our lives. Huge changes. Serious, serious stuff that will harm us, perhaps. “but my kindness shall not depart from thee, neither shall the covenant of my peace be removed,”
Anne: God promises peace as I turn to him through Bible verses concerning dovorce. . Peace is one of the blessings of obeying the commandments. And then in verse 11, “O thou afflicted, tossed with tempest, and not comforted,” And that’s how I was for nine months, right after my ex husband’s arrest. It completely tossed and afflicted me. He says, “I will lay thy stones with fair colours, and lay thy foundations with sapphires.” You’ve heard on the podcast people talk about a post betrayal transformation.
That’s what God wants for us. He would like us to rise like a phoenix out of the ashes. Into strong, powerful women who have more or less stared Satan down face to face, held strong and stood for truth and righteousness. And then in verse 12, he says, “I will make thy windows of agates, and thy gates of carbuncles, and all thy borders of pleasant stones.”
I have no idea what that means, but I assume that it’s wonderful things and blessings coming to us. Then 13, “And all thy children shall be taught of the Lord, and great shall be the peace of thy children. In righteousness shalt thou be established: thou shalt be far from oppression; for thou shalt not fear and from terror; it shall not come near thee.” Wonderful promises in these Bible verses concerning divorce.
14 is really important because we have all felt oppressed and we have felt the terror of seeing our families completely ripped apart. And then he promises, “Behold, they shall surely gather together, but not by me:”
Anne: Meaning your enemies, “whosoever shall gather together against thee shall fall for thy sake. Behold, I have created the smith that bloweth the coals in the fire, and that bringeth forth an instrument for his work; and I have created the waster to destroy.” I think this means people who harm other people eventually harm themselves.
So a Christian version of karma, perhaps, and then God ends with verse 17. “No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper; and every tongue that shall rise against thee in judgment thou shalt condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord, and their righteousness is of me, saith the Lord.”
Sisters, I hope that as we create a healthy army of women who can set boundaries and stand for truth, we can walk through the Red Sea on dry ground together. We can release ourselves and our children from the bondage of abusive behaviors to truly establish peace in our own families. I don’t know how to free us from the bondage of our husband’s sins, if you will. I know that because of what Jesus says about abuse as we take one step at a time, toward peace, God will help us.
God loves you. Jesus Christ is my Savior. For those who aren’t religious, or those who aren’t Christian, I love you, and I care about you. And we are all in this together, regardless of what religion we are, regardless of where we are in the process. And as we hold hands together and support each other, we will walk through the sea of sadness and terror on dry ground and make it to the other side.
Anne: Although I recorded that long before I ever discovered The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Living Free Strategies, but I was praying to discover them. And I did. And I received delivery for my children and me because of those strategies. We have a peaceful life now. To learn more about the strategies I learned over the years through the process of interviewing so many women, and also all my studying and prayer, click on the link at the beginning of this paragraph.
