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The Drama Pattern That Destroys Teams

If you feel like you're always fixing drama you didn’t cause, here’s the truth:

You’re stuck in the Triangle of Death — the Victim, Hero, and Perpetrator loop.

And the moment you “help,” you step into the Hero role…

which keeps the drama alive and kills execution.

The Triangle

• Victim: “Poor me.”
• Hero: “I’ll fix it.”
• Perpetrator: “You’re doing this to me.”

The Victim has the power — because they decide who becomes the Hero and the Villain.

How to Break the Triangle

1️⃣ Don’t play the Hero.

If you rescue, you reinforce victim thinking.

2️⃣ Force responsibility. Ask:

• “What do you own in this?”
• “Have you talked to them directly?”
• “What’s your next step?”

3️⃣ Collapse triangulation.

Say: “Go speak with them, then come back after.”

Drama dies instantly when ownership returns to the person holding it.

Insight to Action

Pick one triangle today —

the salesperson who always needs saving,

the two advisors feuding,

the BDC rep playing favorites —

and collapse it.

Don’t rescue.

Don’t absorb.

Return the responsibility.

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Recommended Next Steps for New Listeners

1. Pick your first battle. Scroll through past episodes and start with one that calls you out.
2. Make it your morning fire ritual. Seven minutes before the chaos begins — listen, learn, lead.
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You don’t need better leads.

You don’t even need better people.

You need to become a better leader.

Let’s go create some leadership fire.