In this episode my friend Russell and I have a really great conversation about personal boundaries. If you're new to boundaries, here are a few tips:
1. Less is more! Fewer words are more effective, so keep it short and simple.
2. Omit the apology! You do not need to apologize for saying no or setting a boundary.
3. Start small! Take small steps so you can set yourself up for success. For example, don't answer a phone call or text when you're attention is on something else. Take the time you need to build up to the emotionally "bigger" situations.
4. Take a beat! When someone gives you an invitation or request, give yourself time to make a decision if you need it. You can say "Let me think about that and I'll get back to you."
5. Have some boundary scripts handy! Come up with some simple, short responses that you can use for things like requests or invitations. For example, "Thanks for asking, but I have another commitment." "I'm not available for that."
Remember, you do not need to explain or justify your boundaries. They are for you, not against others.
Books mentioned:
-What You Need to Know Now: The Lee Ching Messages by Tony Burroughs
-Journey to the Heart by Melody Beattie
Work with Russell: https://www.russellgorga.com/
Work with me: https://www.dragonpathcoaching.com/
Music by Con_nie
