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You're loved. You're enough. You're wonderful. You're brave, you're so brave. Look at everything that you have come through in your life and where you are now. Wow. Wow. I'm really, really proud of you.
(This post was released as a podcast, if you’d prefer to listen just scroll down!♥)
Today I want to talk about the power of having a compassionate witness and compassionate empathetic support, in your journey, wherever you are. For many of us as we grow older, we discover parts of ourselves that can sometimes be surprising. For me in my early 30s I was leaning into learning more about and loving more of my inner child. I had never even considered my inner child in my 20s - not even on the radar!
In this getting to know my inner child, I discovered and in fact, she had been there all along. I just wasn’t paying attention.I discovered that my inner child had been really wounded and really needed a lot of love… and still does. My inner child had a lot to show me and teach me about what it had been like for her.
Maybe it sounds kind of weird, doesn't it? Getting to know your inner child?
They are a part of you. And they are you.
Sometimes we can really be missing so many clear signs of trouble in our current life, but our inner child can give us indications and clues to where those things began and how we can heal. Healing does not have to be this giant struggle. It can really be choices that we take in caring for ourselves that can soothe and heal us quite quickly sometimes.
That being said, we're all humans, so there's always going to be another little niggle or another little corner to explore. I don't think that there is ever a person or a way to be 100% completely healed. I mean, then we would be a spirit and right now, we are we're conscious beings in human form. But because we are in human form, that means it comes with some difficult challenges.
In my early 30s learning about my inner child and my wounding and discovering how much that impacts me in the present time, I realized that I needed support. I need support, if I was going to even survive, if I was even going to choose to continue living. I will be honest, there were times that I seriously considered not continuing on.
That wasn't a place I wanted to be.
I have four children; I do deep down want to be here. So I realized that I needed to bring into my life, people who could support me as I unraveled. I hired a massage therapist every other week, and I went to art therapy every other week. Then every quarter, I was seeing an amazing psychic medium. I was also doing dance regularly on my own.
These four things helped me to make sure that my emotions were seen. An inner child needs to be seen! Children need to be seen. It helps them to feel supported, and it helps them to feel loved. So as I was navigating helping my inner child… I needed to be seen, and I can give that to myself.
But, the power of having other people witness the journey amplifies your own ability to move through the journey with as much grace and ease as possible. You could say it kind of speeds things along.
If you're struggling please know there are people you can go to for support. The massage helped me to tune in to how my body was feeling and helped me to connect to my body. The art therapy helped me to dig into what was deep inside and play. I literally was making a doll in almost every session. She would say here's the supplies, do what you want… And there was another doll and another doll and another doll. Each of the dolls that I made turned out to be another aspect of my own inner self that sometimes I wasn't seeing.
Then, when all the dolls were brought together, they were able to interact with each other in play. The baby doll that I had created was able to be seen and held and know that she didn't need to carry this on her own. It was really, really powerful the impact of art therapy in my journey and I still use these tools all the time.
Now the psychic medium… felt like a soul massage! A nod to being on the correct path, even though it was difficult at that time. There was a lot going on in my life at the time that inner child was knocking at the door.
She was really at the forefront screaming,”Hey, I need some help; pay attention to me!”
The reason that the outward circumstances impacted me so much is because they touched on some of my core woundings. One of those is my need for things to feel fair. The things that were happening in my life were incredibly unfair, and a stranger looking at them would be able to see black and white.
Yeah, this is unfair.
Yet there was no way for me to change any of it and it hurt. Gosh, did my inner child have a bit of a tantrum! On the other side of things, there was only one way that I was able to get out of the downward spiral that I was allowing all of these challenging situations to take me on.
I had to realize that it was my choice to radically accept what was happening.
Accept that things are sometimes unfair. At the same time, I had to soothe my inner child and to let her know that even if it's unfair, she is seen. She is heard. I've got her and she's safe.
Because I was working so closely with a therapist, I was able to share that with her and we were able to make sure that my inner child felt safe to play. And we did! We scribbled. We put soap and bubbles on pages. I created dolls. I cried. I moved things in my body that needed to shift.
It would have definitely been harder on my own. I could have done it, but I think it would have taken longer and it would have been more challenging.
When somebody sees you, they see things sometimes that you're missing and they see things that have been hidden for a while in yourself. Some of those things are things you maybe need to get better at. Some of those are things that you can be really proud of.
Maybe you didn't even realize that you have so much power until somebody says…Go look at YOU! Look at everything you're doing. You're rising up in a challenge that is astronomically difficult. It's unfair. You want to be chosen and you're not. But look at you, you're doing it. Again, we can give all of this to ourselves, but we're humans and we grow and we heal in connection with other humans.
Deep healing almost requires being witnessed in order to amplify our feeling safe. Our ego does not want us to change because change feels scary right now. We're alive. We're doing okay. Now ego says… Hang on a freaking second. I hear you want to change this. What if we die? What if everything goes to shit? That's not going to work for me.
Now we can decide at any time what we're going to do, but when there's somebody who can see from the outside that ego is starting to run things instead of your own soul’s desires.
Sometimes they can see it before we even can, and they can give us that nudge to get back on track. All of this is challenging to accept the help and support because for many of us, we were told that we need to just get on with it. We need to carry on on our own. We need to be strong. We can do it on our own.
We've lost the gift of accepting, being witnessed, being seen, and being held so gently and tenderly by another person. The gift that comes in that when we allow it is that WE are then more likely to give it to ourselves.
If you don't feel worthy to give yourself that love, I really want to encourage you to connect with a coach or a therapist or a massage practitioner… somebody who you know you can trust, or somebody who you're curious about, someone who you've kind of been on the sidelines of and really enjoying the things that they're sharing – and allow them to love you. Allow them to love you! Allow them to see you. Allow them to echo back to you the things that they see in you. Allow them to soothe you. Allow them to be there for you.
Sometimes, it's the first step to feeling safe enough yourself to love yourself. I would love to hear your journey in this. I know today I've shared a little bit of mine and I’ve shared tidbits here and tidbits there. What is your experience been with support? Have you found that it has amplified your results? Have you found that when you are supported it helps you then to support yourself even more? I would love to hear from you. Anytime you can pop me an email or shoot me a message on my website, and I will always always respond back to you. Never forget that you are enough and you're doing a really good job.
