In this episode listeners are introduced to the book 'Set Boundaries, Find Peace' by Nedra Glover Tawwab. Vanessa emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries to prioritize oneself and maintain healthy relationships. She discusses the three types of boundaries: porous, rigid, and healthy, and provides practical advice on how to set and maintain boundaries. She also shares her personal experiences and insights from the book. Vanessa highlights the significance of assertiveness, the roles of ultimatums, and avoiding oversharing to maintain relationship integrity. Special mention is made of the challenges marginalized groups may face in setting boundaries. The episode ends with a teaser for the next episode featuring Dr. Cassandra Dunbar from the podcast 'Be Well, Sis'.
00:00 Introduction to the Podcast
00:12 Book Overview: Set Boundaries, Find Peace
00:45 Personal Reflections and Exercises
04:00 Understanding Boundaries
05:33 Types of Boundaries
13:17 Signs You Need Boundaries
16:11 Communicating and Enforcing Boundaries
18:13 Assertiveness and Guilt
20:54 Prioritizing Yourself
21:51 Changing Relationship Dynamics
24:43 Codependency and Setting Expectations
27:25 Trauma Bonding and Healthy Ultimatums
30:19 The Importance of Not Oversharing
32:20 Identifying Relationship Agreements and Norms
37:20 Power and Status in Setting Boundaries
39:56 Conclusion and Next Episode Preview
