Description

Most of us were raised to be nice and told it was kindness. It isn't. Nice keeps the peace in the room; kind tells the truth even when it costs the peace. This week — starting with something my grandson did in his middle school classroom — I pull the two apart.

In this episode:

• The one question that tells you nice from kind in real time: who am I protecting?
• What "nice" quietly costs you — resentment, exhaustion, being liked but not known
• What it costs the people around you when you hand them a pleasant stranger instead of the truth
• Why kind is never brutal — honesty without warmth is just cruelty that thinks it's brave
• Option vs. choice: nice keeps you an option, kind makes you a choice
• How to start: one honest no this week

"Being nice costs you yourself. Being kind only costs you a moment."

The book — Stop Stealing From Yourself: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0H427G18R
More writing: robinqk.substack.com

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