Resources mentioned:
• Sex, God, and Chaos (book) – available on Amazon
• Couples, men’s, and partner intensives at LifeWorks.ms
🎧 Listen with a partner—or come back to it more than once. This is a conversation worth sitting with.
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00:29 - The Book Behind the Podcast: Sex, God, and Chaos
01:31 - Intensives and Resources at LifeWorks.ms
03:13 - Setting the Stage: When We Think We’re Saying the Same Thing
04:22 - Eva’s Quote: Honesty vs. Transparency
04:50 - Why “He’s Not Being Honest” Can Miss the Point
05:19 - Vagueness, Withholding, and the Addict Mindset
06:40 - Why Transparency Matters for Healing
07:10 - Transparency and Vulnerability Go Together
07:42 - “I Don’t Know How”: Transparency About Feelings
08:57 - The Cost of Silence in the Therapist’s Office
09:27 - Building Self-Awareness Without “Coddling”
10:14 - Awareness as the Ground of Healing
11:54 - Emotional Flooding, Tears, and Misunderstanding
13:20 - No More “No One Taught Me”: Learning Is Available
15:42 - Why Honesty Doesn’t Automatically Create Intimacy
16:08 - Questions Down, Sharing Up
16:30 - Anger as Safety After Betrayal
17:58 - Samson Society Advertisement
18:59 - Learning the Language of Fear and Needs
19:18 - Ben’s Breakthrough: Anger Triggers and Family of Origin
20:46 - Memory, Emotion, and the Hippocampus
22:11 - Reactivity, Anger, and Trauma Patterns
23:45 - Eva’s Abandonment Wound and Withdrawal
24:56 - Marriage Steps on Each Other’s History
25:17 - Forcing Anger to Be Heard
26:21 - Reprogramming Toward Transparency
27:25 - Setting Conditions for Awareness and Safety
27:58 - The Big Question: Friction and Freedom for Men and Women
29:42 - Masculinity and Initiation
30:52 - A Practical Check-In: Sobriety, Fear, and “What I’ll Do About It”
32:42 - Safety, Listening, and Not Trying to Fix
33:21 - The “Pastor’s Wife” Story and Change Over Time
34:53 - Transparency Begets Transparency -
35:37 - When One Partner Tries and the Other Stonewalls
36:20 - Encouragement for Mismatched Growth
37:42 - What to Look For: Willingness and Action
38:41 - Security in God and Community Support
38:46 - Keep Showing Up
39:07 - What Kills Intimacy: Secret, Silence, Judgment
40:52 - Pin for Next Time: Post-Traumatic Growth
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