Description

Disinheritance is often viewed as a clean solution to a painful family problem—but in reality, it can create far more conflict, litigation, and long-term harm than people expect. In this Tuesday Triage episode, Jill Mastroianni unpacks what disinheritance actually means, when it tends to arise (often after emotionally charged family gatherings), and why cutting someone out entirely is frequently the riskiest estate-planning move. Through a realistic scenario involving addiction and sibling dynamics, Jill explains how trusts, professional fiduciaries, and no-contest clauses can offer protection without tearing families apart. This episode is about slowing down, thinking clearly, and making estate-planning decisions that protect all of your children. 

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

• What disinheritance really means. Disinheritance is the intentional decision to leave someone out of your estate plan who would otherwise reasonably expect to inherit. That expectation, and the disappointment that follows, is what often fuels conflict and lawsuits. 
• Why addiction often triggers thoughts of disinheritance. Parents may fear that leaving money outright to a child struggling with addiction could enable harm. These concerns are usually rooted in protection, not punishment, but the solution requires more nuance than cutting someone off entirely. 
• Why trusts are often safer than outright disinheritance. A properly structured trust can provide support without giving unrestricted access to money. Trusts can include guardrails, oversight, and provisions that adapt if circumstances change. 
• Why siblings should not be forced into the trustee role. Naming one child to control another child’s inheritance often destroys sibling relationships. Professional fiduciaries can be a better solution. 
• How no-contest clauses actually work. A no-contest clause raises the stakes for litigation by requiring a beneficiary to risk losing what they’ve been left if they challenge the plan and lose. These clauses only work if someone has something meaningful to lose. 
• Why disinheritance often increases lawsuits. When someone is left nothing, they have nothing to risk. That can make estate litigation more likely, especially when sibling dynamics are already strained. 
• Clarity matters more than silence. If you intend to disinherit someone, your estate plan must say so clearly and consistently across all documents and beneficiary designations. Silence invites challenges. 
• Estate plans distribute responsibility, not just money. Poor planning often leaves the most responsible child carrying emotional, legal, and financial burdens they never asked for. Thoughtful planning can prevent that outcome. 

Resources & Links

• The Death Readiness Playbook. A guided system to help you organize information, understand your options, and think through hard decisions before they become emergencies. https://deathreadiness.com/playbook
• Estate Plan Audit. A structured review to help you understand how your current plan actually works, where the risks are, and what gaps need attention. https://deathreadiness.com/audit
• Submit a Question for Tuesday Triage. https://deathreadiness.com/tuesdaytriage
• California estate planning attorney Patricia De Fonte: https://defontelaw.com/team/patricia-de-fonte/

Connect with Jill:

• Website: DeathReadiness.com
• Email: jill@deathreadiness.com
• Learn more about Jill’s solutions
• Subscribe to the Death Readiness Dispatch!
• Submit a question for Tuesday Triage

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This podcast provides estate planning guidance for women and discusses real, practical issues, from caregiving, pre-planning a funeral, how to avoid probate using beneficiary designations, planning for individuals with special needs (and special needs trusts), whether you need a professional fiduciary (trustee or executor), how the estate tax works and how to preserve your legacy.

Tuesday Triage episodes answer questions from listeners like you, from powers of attorney, healthcare advance directives (and whether they work when you’re pregnant), what a Last Will and Testament really is, whether you need a trust, how Medicaid works and how to have senior and elder care conversations and how to care for aging parents.

Disclaimer: This podcast and all related content are for educational purposes only and do not constitute legal advice. No attorney-client relationship is established here. Use of this information without careful analysis and review by your attorney, CPA, and/or financial advisor may cause serious adverse consequences. For legal guidance tailored to your unique situation, consult with a licensed attorney in your state.