LAW 13 — CHAPTER 13: The Law of Modeling
It’s Hard to Improve When You have No One But Yourself to Follow
LEARN IT
“Lead, Follow Or Just…?”
I. Discuss This Notion: You can only grow as much as YOU can – what now?
Mentor - an experienced and trusted adviser.
What is the role of a mentor?
A mentor may share with a mentee (or protege) information about his or her own career path, as well as provide guidance, motivation, emotional support, and role modeling. A mentor may help with exploring careers, setting goals, developing contacts, and identifying resources.
II. Whom Should I follow?
A. A good mentor is a worthy example
1. Seek a mentor who not only talks the talk but walks the walk.
2. A mentor’s personal life must reflect the highest standards
B. A good mentor is available
1. A mentor must be able to spend time with you to pour into your life
2. You may change mentors as you advance
C. A good mentor has proven experience
1. Seek mentors who have been doing what they do for a long time.
D. A good mentor possesses wisdom
1. Wisdom is knowing what to do with what you know.
2. Never confuse talent with wisdom
3. Wisdom can often be passed on in few words
E. A good mentor provides friendship and support
1. A mentor will let you know they care for you.
2. Don’t confuse someone who wants to give you advice with being a mentor
3. A mentor will lead from both the head and the heart
F. A good mentor is a coach who makes a difference I people’s lives
A coach is someone who gives people special teaching in a particular subject, especially in order to prepare them.
What does a coach do?
A coach is someone who instructs and works with students or with adult clients to prepare them for anything from performing at their peak in recreational or professional sports, to developing skills that will help a person achieve life and career goals.
1. A coach carries someone from where they are to where they want to be.
a. Consider some these names for ‘coach” from other cultures: (all of which mean one who goes before and shows the way.)
i. Sensei – one who has traveled further down the path
ii. Guru – “gu” darkness, “ru” – someone who brings light to darkness
iii. Lama – one with spiritual authority
iv. Maestro – a master of music
v. Tutor – a private teacher
vi. Guide – one who shows the way
vii. Mentor – a wise and trusted counselor
LIVE IT
“To Grow, Get A Coach”
III. Characteristics of a Coach
• Care for people they coach
• Observe their attitudes, behaviors, and performance
• Align them with their strengths for peak performance
• Communicate and give feedback about their performance
• Help them improve their lives and performance
A. The Law of Modeling states that YOU need a coach – everybody needs a coach
1. Michael Jordan has often said that there would be no Michael Jordan without Phil Jackson.
2. Do you have a coach, a mentor, a model to follow?
LEAD IT
“When you live this law, you will show others the way and they empower them to learn it and live it too.”
VI. Applying the Law of Modeling to your Life Facilitation Questions Options
OVERCOME GROWING PAINS
(Specific Steps to Amazing Growth)
• For real growth to occur in your life, find a next-step mentor.
• Before you meet with your mentor or coach, have at least five thoughtful questions ready for him or her.
• Make a list of specific areas of your life you want to discuss. Remember, this is not counseling, but coaching for the future.
• Find even distant mentors you can follow
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