LAW 3 — CHAPTER 3: The Law of The Mirror
You Must See Value In Yourself And Add Value To Yourself
LEARN IT
“Developing Self”
A. List some of the known barriers to one’s potential.
II. A Look In The Mirror – The Power Of Positive Self Esteem
2. Self-esteem is the single most significant key to a person’s behavior
3. Low self-esteem puts a ceiling on our potential
4. Discuss the idea that people are never able to outperform the self-image
A. The value we place on ourselves is usually the value others place on us.
5. Discuss the difference between understanding other’s views on us and placing too much weight in their view.
A. “If you place a small value on yourself, rest assured the world will not raise the price.”
LIVE IT
“Making The Turn Toward Positive Change”
III. Steps to Build Your Self-Image
A. Guard your self-talk.
B. What we “Say” about ourselves, we tend to believe. What we believe, we tend to act. What we act, we tend to become.
C. No World record was ever set by someone who said, “I cannot do this”
IV. Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
A. Making comparisons is an amazingly powerful attraction that is really just an unneeded distraction to your own potential.
V. Move Beyond Your Own Self-limiting Beliefs
A. Discuss this quote: “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you are right.”
B. Charles Schwab said, “When a man puts a limit on what he will do, he places a limit on what he can do.”
C. Discuss these steps to transforming limiting beliefs into empowering beliefs:
1. Identify a limiting belief that you want to change
2. Determine how that belief limits you.
3. Decide how you want to act, feel, or think
4. Create a “turn around” statement that affirms or gives you the permission to act, feel or think differently.
D. Have the participants write down some powerful “I Am” “I Can” and “I Am Able” statements.
VI. Add Value to Others
A. Discuss the downward spiral of “low self-esteem” to “low value of others.”
B. Now discuss this quote: “It’s hard to feel bad about yourself when you are doing something good for someone else.”
VII. Do The Right Thing Even If It’s The Hard Thing
A. It sounds way too simple, but doing the wrong things does harm your self-image and doing the right things does raise your self-image.
B. If you can’t be true to yourself, to whom will you be true?
VIII. Practice A Small Discipline Daily In A Specific Are Of Your Life
A. Discipline is one of the most powerful morale builders
B. Ask the participants to think of just one small area of their life for which they could practice a clear and changing discipline.
IX. Celebrate Small Victories
A. Once you practice a specific discipline, then celebrate that as a victory!
B. Even small changes ARE change
C. Ask this, “Are you trying to change? Do you change even a little?” Then
YOU HAVE ALREADY SUCCEEDED!
X. Embrace A Positive Vision For Your Life Based On What You Value
A. “Take all your values, place them in a basket, and pour them out for the future”
B. Your values must drive your decisions for your future.
XI. Practice the One Word Strategy
A. If you could pick just one word to describe yourself, what would it be?
B. If the word you chose is not positive, then drop the word, and pick another!
XII. Take Responsibility for Your Life
A. You can maintain a positive self-image…but ONLY you can maintain a positive self-image.
B. If you look in the mirror and do not see a capable, worthy, and fully valuable person, you need to change either the reflection, or get a new mirror.
LEAD IT
“When you live this law, you will show others the way and they empower them to learn it and live it too.”
XIII. Applying the Law of the Mirror to your Life
OVERCOME GROWING PAINS
(Specific Steps to Amazing Growth)
• Make a list of your best personal qualities.
• Review this list daily and add more as your awareness of yourself rises.
• It is known that “self-Talk” has a powerful effect on those who practice it: Negative self-talk to the negative and positive self-talk to the positive.
• Write down some positive self-talk narratives that you can review each day.
• Find a place to display positive statements about yourself that you can read each day. Track how often you practice positive self-talk
• Make specific scheduled time each day to focus on others. Write down other people’s positive qualities and find a way to mention these things to them.
• Find specific activities that by their nature focus on other people.
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