LAW 4 — CHAPTER 4: The Law of Reflection
Learning to Pause Allows Growth To Catch Up With You.
LEARN IT
“Learning To Say, ‘Time Out’”
I. The Power of Pausing
A. Reflection turns experience into insight
1. Remind the participants that ever experience can be a learning experience
B. Everyone needs a time and place to pause.
1. Pausing will take intentional planned time
2. “If someone is going down the wrong road, they don’t need motivation to speed up. He needs to stop.
3. Reflection allows life’s Marker’s to become Makers
C. Pausing with intention expands and enriches thinking
1. Instead of saying, “Boy, I am glad that’s over”, say, “What can I learn from that?”
2. For leaders, a moment of thought is often worth more than an hour of talk.
D. When you take time to pause, use your I’s
1. Investigation – Pausing is about finding meaning is each experience
2. Incubation – Like Crock-Pot cooking, incubation allows experiences
and thoughts to grow to their own full potential
3. Illumination – The process of placing value on your experiences and performance. “They either applaud you or prod you” – Jim Rohn
4. Illustration – The process of expanding your experiences into
teachable lessons.
E. Good question are at the heart of reflection
1. Asking the “why” questions brings insight to experiences.
2. Practicing asking questions will give you better question asking skills.
LIVE IT
“Asking The Right Questions To Get The Right Answers”
II. Personal Awareness Questions
Explore these questions for a greater sense of your own awareness of who you are
A. What is my biggest asset?
1. Usually a mental trait
B. What is my biggest liability?
1. Usually an attitude or habit
C. What is my highest high?
1. An emotional response to life
D. What is my lowest low?
1. An emotional response to life.
E. What is my most worthwhile emotion?
1. What emotion drives you to the most success?
F. What is my least worthwhile emotion?
1. What emotion limits you the most?
G. What is my best habit?
1. The secret to a person’s success is found in their daily agenda
H. What is your worst habit?
1. What chronic behavior or feeling most limits you?
I. What is most fulfilling to me?
1. What really stokes your fire?
2. What makes you say, “I was made for this?”
J. What is my most prized possession?
1. This could be a personal trait, an achievement, a thing….
K. To experience growth in a specific area of your life, ask specific questions to that area of your life.
1. Review John’s developed questions regarding relationship and his 10 questions regarding personal growth on page 64.
2. Ask the participants to develop their own questions for their own areas of personal growth.
III. The Journey Is Worth The Trouble
A. This kind of introspection is rare, and most people will not engage it. Be sure to affirm the value of such time consuming and seeming tedious questioning.
B. Remember, seeking to know one’s self is the key to reaching your own potential.
C. Remind the participants that they have come this far, it’s not time to slow down in their own growth.
LEAD IT
“When you live this law, you will show others the way and they empower them to learn it and live it too.”
IV. Applying the Law of Reflection to your Life
Facilitation Questions Options
OVERCOME GROWING PAINS
(Specific Steps to Amazing Growth)
• Make it a top priority to find a place and time for personal reflection and question asking.
• Schedule time – don’t hope you find the time – to pause and reflect.
• Ask the participants to take time to ask themselves the questions contained in this chapter.
• Remind everyone that “We all walk with the limp we got” and that personal growth and change starts with personal awareness that is found in personal reflection and pausing.
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