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In this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra examines a central tension in all relationships: the need for space versus togetherness. If you often find yourself wanting more connection, are you needy? If you typically need more space, are you avoidant? Here, Dr. Alexandra encourages us to ditch the labels and pathology, and instead acknowledge that both space and connection are fundamental needs in an intimate relationship. To help you navigate this, Dr. Alexandra shines a light on the meaning we assign to our orientations around space and shares strategies to help you and your partner create agreements that maximize connection and minimize resentment.

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Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/mating-in-captivity-unlocking-erotic-intelligence-esther-perel/bdb74dc5969d45ea?ean=9780060753641&next=t&

Reimagining Love Episode: "Let's Talk About 'Sleep Divorces'":

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lets-talk-about-sleep-divorces/id1588419386?i=1000627578113

Hermeneutic Labor: The Gendered Burden of Interpretation in Intimate Relationships between Women and Men by Ellie Anderson:

https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/hypatia/article/hermeneutic-labor-the-gendered-burden-of-interpretation-in-intimate-relationships-between-women-and-men/626426004DF2A4908D793B87C3148593

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