Show notes:
00:07 90% of people with a penis who are between 35 and 55 have struggled to get an erection firm enough for intercourse
03:17 What is Erectile Self Efficacy?
03:40 Autonomous sexual erections aren’t realistic
04:42 The alternative to panicking and apologizing
04:52 The "Good Enough Sex" Model
05:26 It's almost always the man's choice to stop having sex
07:32 Where did we go wrong in having guys believe that sex is always supposed to be this one way?
07:53 Men have been lied to about their sexuality
08:21 Responsive male sexual desire
08:45 Men lie to each other about sex
08:51 Using medications as part of erectile self efficacy
09:14 Self-consciousness is the most anti-erotic thing you do
09:37 How to reduce performance anxiety
10:39 Grandfather of sex, Bill Masters
10:50 How do you know a man is cured of erectile dysfunction?
11:14 What to say when penetration isn't going to be part of the sexual experience
11:33 Good Enough Sex Model and Michael Metz
12:37 Working together as an erotic ally
13:44 Desire is not based on performance - desire is based on sharing pleasure
14:27 Orgasm is not the best measure of satisfaction
14:52 Waxing and Waning of erections exercise
16:44 Sex is more than penetration
16:48 What is sex?
17:13 Prostate cancer
18:46 How to know when you are ready for penetration?
19:34 Why do men fail with pro erection medications?
20:17 Pro-penis approach
20:48 Medical evaluation is very important
21:49 Don't assume that because you have a medical problem, like cancer, diabetes, or heart condition, that you cannot be sexual
22:15 Missionary style is not the best position in your 60's. 70's, and 80's
25:26 This show is produced by Katie Jensen at Vocal Fry Studios
25:32 Show ideas or questions? Email michelle@getsome.ca and follow me on Instagram @getsome_podcast
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Narrated by Katie Jensen of Vocal Fry Studios.
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