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CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODE
- The apology is not the only time to talk about [Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD]
- Only apologize if you mean it
- Say it once [Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD]
- Keep it short [Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD]
- Don’t use it as a device to shut someone up [Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD] or to get what you want
- Don't overdo or make it over the top [Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD]
- Watch your body language
- Start it with I’m sorry or I apologize (Mindtools)
- Spell out the mistake (Mindtools)
- Be sincere and authentic (Mindtools)
- Don’t make excuses (Mindtools)
- Own your impact
- Say what you should have done
- Listen to the other person
- Don’t demand forgiveness
- Keep the focus on your actions—and not on the other person’s response
- Don't get caught up on who started on it or who is to blame
- State your future plans to make amends
- Do your best to not repeat the behavior
- Don’t expect things to go back to normal immediately
BONUS TIP: Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD
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