How do you bring up sensitive topics? How can you make each other still feel loved in conflict? How do you resolve conflict quickly? We pulled together a list of questions related to conflict in marriage, asked directly by you guys, and we’re going to tackle them on today’s episode of The WinShape Marriage Podcast. Eric Wooten, author, speaker, and cofounder of Altared Marriage, joins Rob Philo to address a slew of conflict-related questions, providing thoughtful responses and easy-to-implement strategies for your own marriage. For example, he shares this insight—validation is not a complete endorsement of your spouse’s perspective. Do you agree? Tune into today’s conversation to find out!
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Time Stamps:
(:45) Eric Wooten’s background
(2:04) My spouse doesn’t always communicate their feelings and can hold things back. How do I respectfully ask them to share their feelings in an argument?
(5:50) How can you tell the difference between a spouse that wants to help you become a better version of yourself versus one that tries to fix you?
(8:32) How do you bring up sensitive topics without them blowing up into a whole thing?
(11:03) What are your thoughts on addressing multiple issues at once in conflict?
(17:09) How can you make each other still feel loved in conflict?
(20:05) What’s the best way to start a conversation that you both know you need to have but neither wants to initiate?
(22:41) What does healthy conflict look like?
(28:15) When having conflict triggered by tones and quick reactions, how do you avoid responding impulsively?
(32:18) How do you resolve conflict quickly?
(34:28) How do you resolve a conflict that you both can’t come to an agreement on?
(41:08) One key takeaway from this conversation
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Links:
Altared Marriage https://www.altaredmarriage.com/
Valentine’s Day Getaway WinShape Marriage Retreat Feb. 13 – 15, 2026 https://marriage.winshape.org/retreat/valentines-day-getaway-february-2026/
Courageous Communication Marriage Retreat Oct. 30 – Nov. 1, 2026 https://marriage.winshape.org/retreat/courageous-communication-october-2026/
Courageous Communication Marriage Retreat Dec. 11 – 13, 2026 https://marriage.winshape.org/retreat/courageous-communication-december-2026/
“Conflict Resolution Strategies” blog https://marriage.winshape.org/resource/conflict-resolution-strategies/
“How To Stop Arguing With Your Spouse” blog https://marriage.winshape.org/resource/how-to-stop-arguing-with-your-spouse/
“Is It OK To Agree To Disagree With Your Spouse?” blog https://marriage.winshape.org/resource/is-it-ok-to-agree-to-disagree-with-my-spouse/
“Four Steps To Repairing Conflict With Your Spouse” blog https://marriage.winshape.org/resource/4-steps-to-repairing-conflict/
WinShape Marriage Website https://marriage.winshape.org/
WinShape Marriage Instagram https://www.instagram.com/winshapemarriage/
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Relevant Episodes:
Don’t Fall for These 7 Marriage Myths About Conflict https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tFQrzCRVH1E&t=11s
How To Have Better Arguments With Your Spouse https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mdfGBQ-yU7s&t=342s
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