Your wife sees what you don't. She watches how you handle stress, how you show up (or don't) for your kids, and the tone you use when you think no one's listening. She has a front row seat to the man you actually are, not just the man you're trying to become.
In this episode, we unpack three questions I'm starting to ask Dana on our Monday night dates:
These aren't easy conversations. But if I'm serious about 1 Timothy 3, that managing our household well is the proving ground for greater responsibility, then my wife is the most qualified person to help me see where I'm growing and where I'm still falling short.
Paul says an elder must manage his own household well before he can care for God's church. That means we don't get to skip past marriage to the "important work." Marriage IS the work. Every hard conversation is training for something bigger.
Read the full post and comment here: https://read.timschmoyer.com/p/your-wife-already-knows
CHAPTERS
00:00 - Introduction
00:33 - Why date nights matter
01:30 - "What do you need from me?" — origins in business
03:30 - Your wife has a front row seat to who you actually are
05:30 - Question 1: What do you need from me? (The leadership gap)
08:30 - Question 2: Where have you seen me grow? (The formation check)
10:30 - Question 3: What's the one thing I should focus on next? (The mission)
13:00 - Building a track record your wife can witness
15:00 - Faithful with little → ruler over much (Luke 19, crowns)
17:00 - Adam's passivity vs. what God wants from men
20:00 - Good work brings good reward — closing thoughts
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