You want to give generously to your church, but your non-believing spouse objects. What do you do?
We occasionally get that question, and it’s a situation that must be handled with care. If you or someone you know is in that position, don’t miss today’s program, as Ron Blue is here with some sage advice.
Ron Blue is the co-founder of Kingdom Advisors and the author of many books on biblical finance, most notably “Master Your Money: A Step-by-Step Plan for Experiencing Financial Contentment.”
There are two key biblical principles to consider when navigating giving disagreements in marriage:
Ultimately, financial decisions—including giving—should be made together, with mutual understanding and agreement.
Ron has firsthand experience with this issue. When his wife, Judy, became a Christian, she wanted to tithe. But at the time, Ron was not a believer and giving was the last thing on his mind.
Instead of forcing the issue, Judy decided to remain silent about it for two years. However, she lived a transformed life, which was compelling to Ron. Her quiet witness ultimately softened his heart and led him to faith in Christ.
This aligns with the biblical wisdom of 1 Peter 3:1-2, which encourages wives to live in such a way that they may win their husbands to Christ “without a word, by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct.”
Judy’s patient, godly approach allowed Ron to come to faith in his own time, and ultimately, they found joy in giving together.
Once Ron became a Christian, he and Judy intentionally set aside time to align their financial goals—including giving. Twice a year, they would take a weekend away to pray, discuss their finances, and determine their giving goals.
Ron’s perspective on giving is clear:
As Ron says, “The only way you can break the power of money is to give.”
If you and your spouse are struggling to agree on giving, consider these steps:
At the end of the day, God doesn’t need our money—He wants our hearts. And He wants our marriages to reflect His love and unity. If you and your spouse are wrestling with this issue, focus first on fostering understanding and alignment. When you give together with a joyful heart, the blessing is even greater.
If you’d like to read more on this topic, Ron Blue’s full article on this subject is featured in our new quarterly publication, Faithful Steward. To receive it in your mailbox every quarter, become a FaithFi Partner at $35 a month or $400 annually at FaithFi.com/give.
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