Conflict can be uncomfortable. But it’s a necessary part of life that can have great outcomes. ADHD often comes with trouble with executive function, emotional regulation, time perception, and more. This can make conflict even tougher to face.
Senior certified Gottman relationship therapist Michael McNulty walks us through the research on which the Gottman Method is based — and what it means for relationships.
Listen to Cate and Michael as they explore how conflict can change with ADHD, and the four horsemen of divorce — each with their own antidote.
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Timestamps
(03:34) What is the Gottman Method?
(06:00) The research the Gottman Method is based on
(09:42) ADHD and the Gottman Method
(12:54) Executive function and conflict
(15:22) Time perception and conflict
(16:20) What is “turning away and turning towards”?
(19:13) The four horsemen of divorce
(20:32) The first horseman: Criticism
(23:26) The second horseman: Defensiveness
(24:50) The third horseman: Contempt
(27:48) The fourth horseman: Stonewalling
(29:11) Where you can find Michael
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