Hand on heart: how do you actually unwind at the end of the day? Wine? Netflix? Doom scrolling? Staying busy so you don't have to feel it?
No judgment. These are human things.
But there's a question worth asking: are you unwinding, or are you avoiding?
In this episode Emma Queen breaks down the difference between coping (turning the volume down) and regulating (actually changing the station). We talk about why coping works until it doesn't, why you don't have to give up the wine or the Netflix binge, and what it looks like when you're the duck gliding smoothly across the water while your legs are absolutely losing it underneath.
Plus the 80/20 of it all, a word on being kinder to yourself, and a 60-second practice you can do tonight before you reach for your usual unwind.
Coping has a place. But if it's your only tool, you're managing, not healing.
