If you’ve been out of the dating game for a while now, the landscape may seem like a brave new world. Dating apps offer endless possibilities—and overwhelm. Not to mention the fact that you are sorting through your own feelings after a divorce and working to reshape your very identity. It’s complicated to say the least.
Dr. Alexandra Solomon is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. She is regular blogger for Psychology Today and the author of Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want. Dr. Solomon is a renowned speaker and media consultant on topics related to love, sex and marriage, and she has appeared on the Oprah Winfrey Network, The Today Show and NPR, among many others.
Dr. Solomon joins Katherine to discuss how dating has evolved in recent years with the emergence of apps geared to finding love. She explains why it’s important to work through the story of your marriage and focus on yourself before you return to the dating world. Dr. Solomon offers her best advice around dating after divorce, describing the value in processing these experiences on your own before you debrief with a friend. Listen in for Dr. Solomon’s take on sexual experiences that nurture connection as well as her view on casual sex for the newly single.
Topics Covered
The use of technology to find love
Dr. Solomon’s guidance around dating apps
No obligation to use
Slow and steady
Means to an end
How to cut through the ‘chorus of opinions’ and check in with yourself
How therapy can help you work through the story of your marriage
The risks around ‘getting stuck in the heartbreak’
Dr. Solomon’s tips for dating after divorce
Practice self-compassion
Process experience on your own
The natural tendency to look for a romantic partner and co-parent
Why it’s dangerous to think in terms of absolutes
Dr. Solomon’s insight on sexual experiences that nurture connection
Dr. Solomon’s take on casual sex for the newly single
Connect with Dr. Alexandra Solomon
Dr. Solomon’s Website: www.dralexandrasolomon.com/
Resources
Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want by Dr. Alexandra Solomon: www.dralexandrasolomon.com/book
Smart Dating Academy: www.smartdatingacademy.com/
Connect with Katherine Miller
The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
