Why is it that some friendships don’t survive divorce?
When a marriage ends, some friends feel like they have to take sides. Others are overwhelmed and simply don’t know what to say. But if you’re willing to move through a little awkwardness, you can keep the friendships that matter to you after a divorce.
Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW, is a licensed therapist with an expertise in supporting children, adults, couples and families through divorce recovery. She is also the founder of Moving Past Divorce and author of The Remarriage Manual: How to Make Everything Work Better the Second Time Around, the 2020 winner of the American Book Fest’s Best Book Award for Self-Help: Relationships.
On this episode of the podcast, Terry joins Katherine to share the four key reasons why some friendships don’t survive a divorce. She discusses the common misunderstanding that life is ruined by divorce, describing what it looks like to reclaim aspects of yourself that you abandoned in an unhappy marriage. Listen in for Terry's insight on finding a new partner post-divorce (without repeating the same mistakes) and learn how to maintain the friendships that are important to you after a divorce.
Topics Covered
How Terry got interested in the work of divorce recovery and remarriage
The common misunderstanding that your life is ruined by divorce
What it looks like to reclaim aspects of yourself that you abandoned in an unhappy marriage
The top 4 reasons why some friendships don’t survive divorce
What it’s like for Terry to compare her personal experience with that of her clients
How to maintain the friendships that are important to you after a divorce
Why people self-isolate to avoid pity or social awkwardness during a divorce
Best practices for finding a new partner after divorce (without repeating the same mistakes)
Why intentional communication is crucial in creating a successful stepfamily
Terry’s best advice for practicing positive communication
Connect with Terry Gaspard
Moving Past Divorce:
https://movingpastdivorce.com/
Moving Past Divorce on Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/movingpastdivorce
Moving Past Divorce on Twitter:
https://twitter.com/movepastdivorce
Terry on LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/terry-gaspard-28738b4a/
Connect with Katherine Miller
The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
Email: katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.com
Call (914) 738-7765
Resources
The Remarriage Manual: How to Make Everything Work Better the Second Time Around by Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW:
https://movingpastdivorce.com/the-re-marraige-manual/
