Becoming a H+E+R=O
“Mind The Gap,” is one of my favourite phrases in the UK’s transport system. It is a set of three words designed to keep you and me safe and to help us avoid danger. However, in neuroscience and positive psychology, it offers us a different kind of hope. Instead of safety, it opens the doorway to freedom and excellence.
Every neuron connects to other neurons by managing the gap between them. In the space between neurons, magic happens. When we learn to ‘Mind The Gap’ – to pause long enough to let new neural pathways ‘fire’ - we give ourselves time to transform our natural knee-jerk reactions into considered responses worthy of an esteemed sage!
My beloved Nan had cracked this. She said, “All you need to do, Dear, is count to ten!”
Hi, my name is ‘Lex McKee’ and I’m someone who unfashionably believes in Divine Health, Divine Wealth, and Divine Wellbeing.
This means that I believe that
• God wants you well and living in radiant health
• God wants you rich and living in abundant wealth, and
• God wants you to experience a profound inner peace – a sense of Divine Wellbeing that empowers you to pass through the waters of any trial unscathed, and to emerge even stronger.
Why is this ‘unfashionable’? Many Religious people believe that God uses adversity to teach humans a lesson. They are uncertain whether or not it is God’s perfect will for them to be sick or healthy, poor or rich, troubled or at peace, in lack or enjoying abundance.
This is because most humans cannot handle wealth, and when they are healthy and everything is rosy, they forget about God – they don’t need Him. In fact, the Western Church really doesn’t need God. If they get sick, they go to the Doctor. If they are poor, they borrow more, and if they are depressed, they go to BIG Pharma. Let’s remember that pharmaceutical companies are not interested in cures, they are interested in customers… for life!
So, what I believe is a threat to the status quo. To many, I am a heretic.
But I think you may be a heretic too. If you agree that a human father who gives his children cancer to teach them something belongs behind bars, you and I are on the same page. God is the God of Light, the God of Love, and even the God of Laughter. He doesn’t make His children poor to teach them anything either. And He explicitly blesses us with peace. Through Jesus, He says, “My peace I give to you,” and that this is a, “peace that passes understanding.” He offers us rest and comfort by taking His yoke upon us and learning from Him. This is preceded with an invitation, “Come to me ALL you who are weary and burdened, and I WILL give you peace.”
Today, I want to share how you can become a HERO and thus take control of your emotional responses and the outcomes they lead to. You see, the way we feel most often leads, via a knee-jerk reaction to the results we get. I don’t want to be a jerk, not even a knee-jerk. I also don’t want to be my own worst enemy.
Here’s what normally happens:
Event + Reaction = Outcome
Something happens, you feel a certain way about this, you react on autopilot, and you get a result! Let me let you into a little secret that you’ve already experienced – it’s rarely a good result!
HEROes are different.
You begin with Humility – acknowledging you don’t know everything and that you’re still learning, and that you don’t always have to be right, and that you’re a work in progress.
Then the Events come flooding in.
Humility + Event
At this point, you’d normally have a set of default reactions to draw upon so that you don’t have to think about it too much. This was a great system in the days when hesitation meant you were going to be lunch for a predator! You seriously literally didn’t have time to think (i.e., Respond), no, you needed to React to survive, to live!
In the West, nowadays, not many Sabre-Toothed Tigers prowl the streets.
We need a better pattern.
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