Is someone making plans for you? Are you part of someone's experiment? What is their agenda? Too many agendas.
I had a professor for a speech class and I was attracted to her even though she was younger than me. I hinted once that she knew that I was attracted to her and said, as long as you don't have an agenda. I thought about that. Do I have plans for women I date? Not really. If I love you, I love you without stipulations. Recently I watched comedian Mark Maron and he said, to keep the pussy a few steps away when talking to women. I thought sometimes I don't because, I am a man and I have been alone for so long. However, the other day I was at the grocery and a woman started talking to me in line. I was attracted to her but, the pussy was steps away. When I got home I said to myself that's good man. That was honorable. I have had people making plans for me and having agendas included with friendship. That's not a friend and that is no way to be. Think next time you are talking to someone. Do you like the person for who they are or do you want them to be an image you have in your head? Are they a person to you or are they your little project. I have been dehumanized by even family members. It's sick and not good.