This subject is taken from the Early Morning Barking video that you'll find here - https://youtu.be/N7HY-XEC-NI
The best advice I could give you is in this podcast. It's something that I've repeated as much as possible, and even put on a t-shirt - https://www.redbubble.com/shop/ap/112029300
Living with BPD or any other personality disorder is a difficult thing at the best of times, and often, we're our own worst enemy. We act in anger, or panic, and we end up doing and saying things we'll later regret. Hopefully this advice will help you handle those situations a little better.
For more discussion of BPD and NPD, check out the Early Morning Barking YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCecHZXozczzZ5FBSXismyQA
