Today, I want to introduce you to a powerful framework called a Relationship Grid—a tool that maps how we show up in our relationships: in friendship, marriage, parenting, work, and even in our relationship with God. This particular grid we will focus on spans a continuum from unhealthy enmeshment and co-dependency to healthy interdependence, and all the way to emotional detachment and avoidance. Somewhere on this spectrum, you and I live every day. You’ll recognize yourself in some of these patterns—like the Doormat, the Rescuer, or the Controller. Others of us might identify with the Avoidant, the Cynic, or the Ghost. These aren’t just labels; they reflect deep beliefs, unmet needs, and relational habits shaped by our past.
