Maureen Pollard interviews Kara about her experience of losing her life partner of 38 years suddenly and unexpectedly when she suffered a fatal pulmonary embolism. Kara opens up about how different the world was almost 40 years ago, and how she wasn't sure how her partner's family would react to her, how they hadn't discussed their partnership which made the day she died also feel like their coming out day. They talk about the challenges of learning to live again, how going to the grocery store for the first time was difficult because she didn't know what SHE wanted, she was so used to buying for both of them. Kara describes this process as "losing the we, and becoming a me". They also discuss how important it was for Kara to stop focusing on the day her partner died, instead she learned to remember the good memories; and how she had to accept that she became a different person after her loss, but the feelings and the love for her partner remain.
