We hear a lot about the mother wound which we as adults can carry around with us. We are told that we can hold this wound if we perceive we didn’t get what we needed from the feminine, i.e. the soft nurturing feminine touch.
I use the word perceive because with the best will in the world as a mother our children can perceive something so differently from the reality of the mother. The mother’s story is what she perceives is her reality based on her life’s circumstances.
I often use the example and speak of the child who clings to his mothers leg when he starts school. Does he perceive mum is abandoning him when of course the reality is that mum is not abandoning him but merely sending him to school. But for this particular child they may perceive abandonment.
