For the most part vulnerability can get us breaking into a sweat and saying “Me, no I don’t do vulnerability”! Maybe that is because the first definition you get when you look it up says that “it is a fear of being attacked either physically or emotionally”. And of course, none of us want that as it taps into our basic fear around our survival. Feeling safe is a non-negotiable need.
The kind of vulnerability I am speaking to is the one that makes us fear other people really seeing us, really knowing us, or really hearing us. We put on masks to hide our real selves in order to appear somehow different to who we really are. Often, we don’t realise we do it. But often times we do and choose to do it anyway.
It comes down to how we value ourselves. We might not feel good enough, bright enough, thin enough, educated enough or whatever enough.
