Welcome to episode #16! In this week's podcast, Matt and Braden go deep into exposing where fantasies come from
What's the harm in fantasizing?
Fantasies lead us to act out. If we learn how to eliminate fantasies, we won't continue on in the journey to eventually acting out in porn, masturbation, or fornication. Our brains don't know the difference between our thoughts and reality, so the more we dwell on fantasies, the less content we'll feel with the actual reality of our life.
There are typically 4 sources of fantasy
1) Unfulfilled Desires
2) Past Trauma
3) A Nurturing Event
4) First Sexual Experience
Learning where our fantasies come from will allow us to identify an area of lack or pain in our lives so that we can pursue healing.
Learning how to deal with fantasies is so important!
We must learn how to surrender our fantasies to God. It can be awkward sharing them with other people too, but when we find a safe person to be open with, sharing our fantasies is part of God's design for freedom. Realizing that living out our fantasy, in reality, is never as 'perfect' as what we dream about, helps us deal with the fantasies and increase the joy we can experience in our lives. By putting yourself in the reality of your fantasy, you're allowing yourself to conquer the power the fantasy has over you.
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Next week, Matt and Braden talk to Bonnie Ragan of UltimateU Discovery about what it's like for wives to journey through the pain caused by their husband's addiction.
Resources
Fight 4 Love Ministries: A biblical plan to get porn out of your marriage
Article on FamilyLife Canada: Getting porn out of your life and marriage
Pure Freedom Community for men 18+
Pure Freedom Journey for men and women
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FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage
Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)
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Podcast Hosts
BRADEN HAFNER
Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 12 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com
MATT CLINE
Matt and his wife Louise raise their little guy, David, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honored to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.
