Welcome to episode #96!
In this episode, Matt and Braden talk about sexual compatibility, and whether it holds up or if it is potentially damaging our ideas surrounding sex.
We are different- and that is ok!
Our society elevates the idea of sexual compatibility, and often it is rooted in the idea that we need to be the same sexually with our partner, in libido, desire, and in our needs. If we don't have these similarities with our partner, then we are "not" sexually compatible, and are probably with the wrong person. But this idea builds the concept that sex needs to be fireworks from day one, otherwise we don't have proper chemistry. But where this idea falters, is that God has built differences and "incompatibility" into sexual intimacy, because sex is so much more than just a self-serving physical act. It is powerful and it takes time to grow together, and because we are so different, true intimacy is something that we learn together as we navigate our God-given differences.
Sex and marriage go hand in hand.
Because sex is such a vulnerable and powerful act, it designed by God to be experienced in marriage. So the idea of sexual compatibility is inconsistent with Gods design, because it sets us on a path to finding our spouse through sex. But God designed sex to be enjoyed by husband and wife, as they learn one another, and serve one another, building intimacy in a marriage relationship. So it is something that is cultivated over time with one person, our spouse, not multiple partners searching for that sought after "compatibility" to determine who we should be with.
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BRADEN HAFNER
Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 12 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com
MATT CLINE
Matt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honored to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.
