TRANSCRIPT FOR EP38:
Welcome to SHE is Confident. Hi! This is Deon Teh and in this episode, I will be sharing with you about LIFE BALANCING.
Do you often feel unhappy, hurt, and always feel that things do not go your way. You will probably have one of these two reactions, one is trying to fight back, or cover up and suffer silently.
The first reaction is to release anger but the other party will be hurt by you. At the same time, this is an endless cycle. The other reaction is closing up your inner heart. Your mind and subconscious tend towards negativity and it will affect both your daily life as well as your health.
What you focus on is what you will experience. you often have thoughts like these. why others have to rub salt on your wounds, why others can’t change, why do they have to behave like this.
I have good intentions for others but why don’t they listen to me and follow what I tell them to do. You don't have the answer and you still encounter it over and over again.
This makes us go round and round in circles and trap us into more depth of pain.
My late father was diagnosed with cancer and my late mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, these are two of the biggest pains of my past, I often asked myself why I need to face such pains. I often think that my parents are good people and why they have to suffer illnesses like these.
I was in my early twenties and I did not understand why my parents had to suffer so much.
It was a difficult period for all of us at home. We were exhausted from having to constantly take care of both of them. Even though my father recovered initially but he had a relapse a few months later and my mother’s condition worsened, we were not able to take care of her by ourselves, hence we had to send her to a care centre in JB and we would visit her once a week.
At that time, due to my personality, I was very concerned about how others viewed my situation. I did not want people to pity me and I was not strong enough to hold my feelings inside me. Therefore I hide away from my friends as I worry that they might want to help me and give me all kinds of advice. As they are not in the same situation as me and their well-meaning advice might not be able to help me, if I don't take up their advice and do as they say, it might strain our relationship.
That was the darkest period in my life, as I had no much experience in handling life and I thought I would break down anytime.
My siblings and my husband gave me a lot of emotional support, my in-laws were also very understanding towards my situation at that time. The love and support that I received from them made me stronger and I was able to balance my life.
Ignore how people judge you and as they are not in the same situation as you. they would not know what are the suitable solutions for you and your family. Unless they have experienced similar situations before, then we can take their advice as a reference.
Although I have lost both of my parents, my mother-in-law showered me with lots of love and The love that she gave me makes me value her more. I have learnt to appreciate the things that I have and enjoy the moment while I can.
All things start from a thought. If I were unable to have positive thinking, I will end up losing my direction and my actions will also have to be aligned with my thinking, this way my life can be balanced.
Remember that you are not alone, your family and friends will always be there for you whenever you encounter any difficulty.
When you encounter bad situations, that doesn't mean that you are bad. Be brave and walk through it as life will always open another door when one door is closed. Stay calm and follow your heart.
Life balancing is important for us to continue our daily life and we need this in order to carry out our life journey.
Life is like the Yin and Yang logo. The logo, it consists of black and white parts. Inside the white part, there is a black dot and inside the black part, there is a white dot.
This means that for every unfortunate event, there will be something good that comes out of it and vice versa. That is life balancing for us.
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