Transcript for ep9;
Welcome to SHE is Confident. Hi! This is Deon Teh and in this episode, I will be sharing with you about our inner child.
Have you ever thought that why sometimes we just hate to do something without knowing the reason or do you have any experiences of being angry at someone just by his or her action and response.
So if we were to remove these negative thoughts in our minds, what would it happen?
In this episode, I would like to share with you about how our inner child affect us daily.
In fact, we are born to be self-sufficient, however, we are conditioned by our environment as we are growing up. The experiences and daily habits that we gained, formed the person we are today.
Our inner child is a reflection of how we feel and how we are being treated by others.
Like traumas, non-acceptance by parents, insecurity, low self-esteem, unhappiness, constant comparison between siblings by parents, having deviant behaviour and identity crisis.
No matter what age we are, our inner child will stop growing internally. This inner child will be triggered whenever we experience unhappiness or encounter bad events.
Even though my friends and relatives feel that I have a good-tempered, I will always lose or throw my temper whenever my staff did not do what I wanted them to do. After losing my temper, I will also regret my behavior and reflect on why I have to throw my temper at them even for trivial matters.
Very often at times like these, I wonder who I really am. Am I really a good-tempered person or I am actually controlling my temper at home or outside and releasing the pent up anger at work.
Ever since I started working, in the past, I will always have Monday blues on Sunday nights, and I will feel stress thinking about what might happen at work tomorrow. This persisted for many years. There were no improvements, and things seem to worsen. In 2005, and in 2010, during my yearly checkups, the doctors find benign (BE-NINE) tumours in me. I had to go for day surgery to remove it. After the surgeries, I started to take better care of my health and turned to traditional Chinese medicine to heal my body. The Chinese doctor told me that my body channels are blocked and I have to watch my temper and relax more. At that time, I agreed with the chinese doctor and also believe that these tumours were caused by negative feelings and thoughts. But as I was busy with my work, I just listened to the chinese doctor and took his medicine and did not think too much about it.
In 2015, I had the opportunity to join a basic healing program. After the 2 days program, I felt refreshed, peaceful and extremely happy and my sore shoulders were also healed to my surprise.
I was very satisfied with my results but at the same time, I was very curious about the healing method. How can someone heal another one just by using her hands and voice?
So I continue to attend the intermediate and advanced program, hoping to find the answers.
There were no answers but only a method to practice self healing.
Even though I learnt the method but I was not convinced of how it can heal me.
I lost my interest and motivation to practice as I did not understand why I can be healed using the method and did not become a superstitious person.
However the lousy feelings and my aching shoulders started to return back, and I did not want to blindly follow the method taught and I started to search for related articles.
And I found many topics talked about our inner child. I was very curious about this inner child in us and I went to read up more. I found out that the inner child is hidden within our Conscious, subconscious, unconscious mind, and we need to be aware in order to help and heal ourselves.
After reading more on the inner child and using the information that I have learned, I become more aware of myself, and now I feel more peaceful, calm, patient and is more reasonable. My relationship with others have improved, I am more open-minded, and I know what I want and most times, I am able to let go of negative thoughts and not let those thoughts control my emotions.
Conclusion:
Whenever something bad happens, our brain will logically give us the response, and without hesitation, it will tell us to defend or attack, our little me will respond to what we have in our deep subconscious mind.
In order to react in a better way, we need to have more awareness of ourselves and our inner child to react in a better way.
Before you respond, think about how this matter will affect you in next year or 10 years later?
Does it matter? If no, there is no reason to throw your temper.
Don’t let your anger out first, think before reacting and you will be able to have a clearer mind to come out with an alternative or solution and this will lead to you having better relationships with others.
We always will react something that we also don’t know why we cannot let go, there are some inner hurt or things that not satisfy us and disappointment within us. There are the things that can change.
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I look forward to seeing you in my next episode where I will be sharing with you on self-love.
