Levels of being out
- Total secret (100% closed doors)
- Partial out (maybe in friend circles but generally not family or work)
- Totally out (shouting from the rooftops)
How open are you?
- Social media - relationship status, tagging, sharing pictures
- Public outings - Running into friends, family, co-workers, and the like
- Family events
Deciding when, how and whom to come out to is quite the challenge and there are a lot of resources for you out there. Here are our 4 basic tips to help get you started...
- Bring your partners around your family/friends early. Introduce them however you are comfortable at the time but let your family/friends get to know them as a person BEFORE they make snap judgements of them as a partner.
- Talk about Polyamory and explain WHAT it means to you. (When I first mentioned it to my mom she assumed it was always swinger parties with keys in a bowl.)
- Explain WHY you are choosing to be polyamorous. Explain your abundance in love and how you aren’t using it as an excuse to cheat etc.
- Be OPEN to questions and feedback. Understand that everyone may not support you right away. Be patient and answer their questions and give them time.
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