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Inspired by a conversation with my own coach. This episode asks what’s truly important to you - for your whole self - and what is it you’re no longer willing to compromise on…

There's an important caveat to this idea of 'non-negotiables' - that they don't then lead us into a fixed mindset. It's about identifying what's truly in our best service and then creating the environment for us to put that into place.

Here are some of the core points I cover...

• An exploration of my own patterns and the ‘rules’ I used to live by - and how have they changed… Leading into a question about what are yours? How are they changing? How would you like them to change?
• When does something shift for you from being a nice-to-have and into a non-negotiable? And what are the boundaries you need to put into place to support that?
• The things we hold to be ‘true’ are different for each of us - and they change / grow with us as we change and grow. 
• And honouring these things is critical both for ourselves and in how we allow space for others. And how others allow our space.
• It can be useful to understand where these things we see as fundamental to our existence are born out of - and then see whether they’re truly being met right now. And if not, what could you put into place to better support them. 
• When we sense we’re acting out of alignment with these ‘non-negotiables’ it can indicate something about how our values are being honoured; leading to deep discomfort. 
• Noticing when something isn’t being allowed expression, can help us to reframe or reposition our perspective of what’s impacting us.
• Conversely, making something non-negotiable can help us take the struggle out of a change we want to make. Enabling us to use more emphatic language - as a statement of intention*, that creates our new non-negotiable. 

*An intention is a positive statement in the present tense

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Thank you as always to Angus at changomusic.com for his music and production.

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