Study envy to find messages from our future selves
We unpack the role of envy, not as a toxic emotion to be avoided or ashamed of, but a normal feeling that gives us clues to understanding our unmet desires, unfulfilled potential, and prompting necessary change.
- envy vs jealousy. Jealousy is possessiveness, envy is wanting what others have, or wanting to be them
- becoming less envious of others as we get older
- the emptiness at the heart of existence remains in place no matter who we are or what we have
- house prices, salaries, wealth distribution
- complex, changing feelings, hiding then reveal the path to self-growth
- fitting in vs standing out
- being the object of envy
- being envious of contemporaries, such as friends, people we went to school or work with
- having envy towards our own partners
- bike shorts/yoga pants: acceptable clothing for everyone?
- getting beneath the surface of desire, wanting a greater sense of freedom
- gender and clothing: do women have greater freedom in terms of clothing?
- 'painful but necessary steps'
- Ali's dream of growing more of her own food
- self-envy, a 'better version of ourself' from the past
- Joe's epic case of personal envy towards a contemporary
- therapy: like cleaning a mirror, with the image becoming clearer over time.
- daily transformations that count towards personal growth
- the importance of casual conversations for therapeutic value
Creators & Guests
- (00:00) - Introduction and Welcome
- (00:28) - Discussing Alain de Botton's Quote on Envy
- (01:41) - Understanding Envy and Jealousy
- (02:05) - Personal Experiences with Envy
- (02:48) - Envy and Lifestyle Aspirations
- (03:24) - Debate on Work and Lifestyle
- (05:30) - Envy in Youth and Adulthood
- (05:55) - Envy and Money
- (08:49) - Envy of partners in relationships
- (11:32) - Envy and Personal Style
- (29:16) - The Illusion of Success
- (29:24) - The Changing Landscape of Attainable Dreams
- (30:04) - The Struggle with Identity and Expectations
- (30:20) - The Reality of Career Success
- (31:20) - The Shift in Perception of Wealth and Success
- (32:32) - The Struggle with Personal Limitations
- (33:34) - The Reality of Life's Unpredictability
- (34:30) - The Desire for Freedom from Wage Slavery
- (35:12) - The Struggle with Self-Blame and Helplessness
- (37:36) - The Journey Towards Self-Reliance and Acceptance
- (42:31) - The Power of Reflection and Self-Understanding
00:00 Theme, intro
00:28 Alain de Botton's Quote on Envy
01:41 Understanding Envy and Jealousy
02:05 Personal Experiences with Envy
02:48 Envy and Lifestyle Aspirations
03:24 Debate on Work and Lifestyle
05:30 Envy in Youth and Adulthood
05:55 Envy and Money
08:49 Envy of partners in relationships
11:32 Envy and Personal Style
29:16 The Illusion of Success
29:24 The Changing Landscape of Attainable Dreams
30:04 The Struggle with Identity and Expectations
30:20 The Reality of Career Success
31:20 The Shift in Perception of Wealth and Success
32:32 The Struggle with Personal Limitations
33:34 The Reality of Life's Unpredictability
34:30 The Desire for Freedom from Wage Slavery
35:12 The Struggle with Self-Blame and Helplessness
37:36 The Journey Towards Self-Reliance and Acceptance
42:31 The Power of Reflection and Self-Understanding
