Have you ever SWORN
that you’d NEVER turn out to be like your parents
when you had kids….
and then were mortified to one day notice,
that you were starting to follow in the same footsteps?
If you can’ t relate to what I just said…
Congrats, you’re likely keen on breaking cycles of Trauma..
But if you COULD relate—
please don’t feel ashamed of that.
Intergenerational trauma is so insidious,
you won't even realize it’s affecting you.
You don’t know it’s there—
UNTIL you get activated by your kids….
For example—
If they don’t listen to you one day….
and you lose it —
because it takes you all the way back to childhood
where you didn’t feel seen and heard by your parents.
It’s in the little things that are stuck as deep neural grooves
in our reactions.
They get passed down, causing a reaction in the systems of our child.
The problem is—
When a child experiences something overwhelming,
they don’t start by hating their parents.
They learn to hate themselves.
This separation from self— for the sake of belonging, feeling loved,
and having mommy and daddy’s approval forms the
blueprint for all our relationship attachments in adult life.
Our work is to break the cycle, so our kids don’t grow up
not knowing who they are.
Not having a healthy sense of self.
A unicorn parent is someone who has a sense of completion with their own
past wounding— so they’re available to meet the emotional needs of their
child(ren).
Without mastering Nervous System Regulation, understanding our own
emotions— having decent Emotional Intelligence and literacy,
our kids end up having the same dysfunctional relationship with their emotions as we do,
and then when they develop anxious neuroses and depressive conditions,
we send them to psychologists which can further invalidate their experience,
all because we haven’t yet healed what the child is brining up for us.
It’s never about the child in front of us.
It’s about the kid inside of us.
The Unicorn Parent of today is a CycleBreaker— one who takes full
responsibility to heal what didn’t start with them…
but it can end with them.
If you’ve noticed your children have been struggling,
and you feel you’re at your wits end,
and are keen on learning how to become the "Unicorn Parent” that’s
a rare breed these days— a parent that can actually HELP the child
regulate, feel seen, heard, and understood so they can thrive and feel
safe and secure— and KNOW WHO THEY ARE….
I’m curious to know more about you.
Follow the link below for an “Intimacy Audit” call and
let us know what’s been stopping you,
and what you’d love to accomplish.
Breaking Cycles of Trauma is the greatest gift you can give your child.
A Unicorn Parent is a Self-Loving parent— which will rub off on everyone in your family system.
Standing for healed families….
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