I didn’t know this about Trauma…
But it explained EVERYTHING.
Why I was so anxious.
Why I was so self-critical.
Why I was such a perfectionist.
Why I cared so much about what other people think.
Why I didn’t know who I was beyond this false self I put up
to hide from my own insignificance.
Since we teach what we most need to learn,
I wanted to get to the bottom of why I was falling into the same
Co-Dependent patterns in relationships,
despite being intelligent and successful…
Trauma, and my “Unintegrated Shadows” were the culprit.
So I got to work.
Studied Poly Vagal Theory.
Attachment Theory.
Shadow Work.
I even retired from Chiropractic to get my Somatic Experiencing Practitioner Certification.
(Back to school for another 3 years at the tender age of 45!!!)
What I discovered was ASTOUNDING.
It’s the reason why many of our students love their therapists and counsellors but complain
“it didn’t work for me”.
To heal we must go deeper than the stories we keep telling week after week, year after year,
and go hardcore towards the conditioning in our Nervous Systems that are HARD WIRED…
That get tripped up every time we get activated or triggered in conflict.
We must learn the new skill of repair if we want to create secure attachments,
calm and flow in the mind,
and safety in the body.
This clip is a 20 minute clip from the training portion of a recent “Breathwork and Badassery Event”
where I share the insidious ways that we absorb trauma, but never really realized it.
See, most of us think Trauma is when we get physically/sexually abused by our parents and siblings, and family members.
In this video you’ll see many other examples you might not have even known.
I sure as hell didn’t know this about Trauma,
but when I discovered what it REALLY was,
it opened the door for me to FINALLY heal.
Today, I credit my healthy and secure relationship to the inner work I’ve done,
and the fact that I’m breaking the cycle of Codependency and volatile relationships
for my son to be raised in a home where he feels safe, seen, and understood.
So he can REST in our love, and not feel like he constantly has to work for it.
That’s what it means to be a Cyclebreaker.
Check out the 20 minute portion of the training, and grab a pen, and send me a DM
if anything resonates.
And when you feel called to take on the work of breaking the cycle so that relationships
can flow, resilience and courage emerge, and your nervous system feels calm and free….
Join us at our next event and discover a massive opening for yourself when you
are able to connect with parts of yourself you’ve abandoned long ago,
in service of getting outside approval.
That’s the impact of Trauma.
It’s inside you.
It’s in all of us.
And it gets passed down if we don’t address it.
When you finally do, the trajectory of life totally changes.
It sure did for me.
If you’re ready to discover what it feels like to not be so burdened by your old identity of who you think you are…
Jump in the portal to truly feel what it’s like to feel love towards yourself.
The quality of our health and lives depends on it.
See you at the next perfect time.
Your guide on the side,
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