How many books have you read on healing relationship dynamics?
If you have, I’m curious if you’ve ever noticed any dramatic results
— especially when we are dealing with Trauma Bonds.
Trauma Bonds are easy to pick out. Think Johnny Depp and Amber Heard.
Highly addictive.
Volatile.
You KNOW they’re not good for you, but you just can’t seem to get out.
Lesley reached out to me in a “zombie-like” state after 6 years of KNOWING
she was with someone who kept lying and cheating on her,
like she had EVIDENCE of it….
but he kept denying it.
The problem wasn’t him.
She knew he was who he was.
She couldn’t figure out why she was so addicted to him.
She kept saying it was like “crack-cocaine”.
When we worked together last year, her outcome she set out for in the beginning
was to break free from what she KNEW wasn’t healthy for her (but couldn’t find the courage to do so).
Let me tell you, it was a frustrating ordeal.
Even for me.
I really care for my clients and students.
Sometimes a bit too much…
And after one time when she was talking about trying to figure out what she could do to try to get his attention,
when her attention would have been better served focussing on ANYTHING other than him,
I was about to tell her that it seemed like she wasn’t wanting to let go and that she would be better off
working with someone else.
The day before our next call— I stopped and tuned into myself
and did an “Overview” on Lesley.
It’s a tool I created that helps get to the core of why we are stuck in the first place.
Lesleys situation triggered me, and in those situations when I get triggered by a student,
I always know there’s a reflection in them I’m not looking carefully enough at.
Turns out I was triggered by her because I MYSELF was stuck in a situation in my Trauma Bond
and was too scared to cut loose and break free.
I saw the little boy inside myself that was afraid to be alone.
that felt he had to get validation from the outside world to feel loved.
A little boy who didn’t love myself.
The next day on our session, I told Lesley what feelings her situation brought up in me.
She was moved to tears and it hit her.
She didn’t love herself either.
She had lost a partner, and instead of grieving his loss, she went into “caretaker” mode.
She looked after everyone’s emotions but her own.
On that call, she released 6 years of grief.
She told me it felt like an exorcism.
She realized that her bond to this dude in the Trauma Bond had very little to do with the dude himself.
As she dismantled her emotions, her sadness and grief she’d been long surpassing, something magical happened.
On our following week’s group call, she had something powerful to share that might be relevant to you
if you find yourself in a situation where you have no idea why you can’t get out.
The truth is, you’re not alone,
and healing happens on the other side of finding the right guide and community to help you GET TO THE ROOT CAUSE.
It’s NEVER ABOUT WHAT IT’S ABOUT.
If you’re resonating with this short 5 minute video and want to see if healing is possible for you,
follow the link below and apply to be in our container that’s most suited for you and your situation.
If you’re ready to experience true freedom,
a new reality where you are able to look in a mirror and feel light instead of frozen and frustrated…
give us your background story, and on that call we will determine:
Where you want to be in the next few months,
where you are now,
and we’ll help you determine EXACTLY what’s in the way.
A book is helpful,
but it won’t help break free from a trauma bond.
Only YOU can,
with the right guidance.
You deserve that.
Your guide on the side,
Dr. Nima
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