Of all the relationship advice I ever was given,
there was one concept that trumped them all:
The concept of “safety.”.
The foundational context of every relationship
that feels inspiring, fulfilling and rewarding isn’t HOT SEX
(that’s what I used to think it was all about).
We all want relationships that are secure attachments.
Nobody goes into these dynamics wanting things to turn into a toxic mess.
Without this one concept of safety, though…
Insecurity runs the show.
Push/pull dynamics of “come close to me— get away from me…”
“don’t leave me— leave me the F alone” tend to be exhausting…
stressing you out, distracting your vibe, and ruining your mojo.
When we don’t address the root cause of this, we forever run around in circles.
What’s the root cause:
INTERNAL SAFETY. SAFETY FROM WITHIN.
When we don’t create that internalized sense of safety, we are constantly
OUTSOURCING our internal regulatory functions….
Which means constant mood and emotional dysregulation.
And when we haven’t found that internal state of regulation—
NO RELATIONSHIP WILL EVER SUFFICE.
But when you DO master the art of internal safety…
as safety that isn’t dependent on others…
We turn co-dependency into power.
We stop attracting the Narcissistic / Codependent cycles…
We can finally move forward from a painful breakup… and find secure love again…
Because we found it within ourselves.
This is why I love our community containers…
Because it’s filled with folks like you who have been caught
looking for approval and validation OUTSIDE themselves,
and are ready to master the 5 pillars it takes to create that safety WITHIN….
This is for those who recognize that no one is coming to save us…
But when we look to create safety WITHIN first…
we BECOME the love we are seeking outside of ourselves.
That’s when the magic happens…
If you’ve been lurking and watching….
afraid to take any action because of trust or safety issues…
This is your invitation to lean into jumping in with a link below…
and find SAFETY WITHIN.
See you at the next perfect time.
Your guide on the side,
Nima
