SELF ABANDONMENT 101
Co-dependency, Toxic Relationships, and Trauma bonds...
This is all unconscious patterning.
We've been conditioned from a very young age
to feel that our being-ness only is worthy of love
so long as we fulfill certain criteria and achievement.
While on one hand, this is done with all the right intentions,
and helps drive us to succeed.
On the other hand it creates a feeling of anxiety,
an "unsafe" feeling in the body...
A constant yearning to try to prove our worth...
As deep inside we crave being seen
and understood
and appreciated for exactly who we are.
If we don't sort this out,
relationships become inauthentic
and we end up feeling hollow...
completely reliant on how others perceive us.
WE ABANDON OURSELVES IN SERVICE OF
EXTERNAL VALIDATION AND APPROVAL.
We then become needy and insecure,
and that type of energy keeps us stuck
in business and life.
What's in the way of us reconnecting to ourselves
is our INTOLERANCE to feeling our feelings.
We start to become afraid of fear itself.
When you finally stop distracting,
and start taking responsibility and taking the steps,
You then gain access to the "Crowning Achievement"
of humanity:
Secure healthy attachments in family dynamics, with healthy boundaries....
Romantic Relationships that are based on mutuality, and INTERdependence instead of Co-dependence...
A feeling of safety in the body,
Breaking the cycle of trauma in family systems,
And lowered sense of anxiety as your level of confidence
and resilient flow with the challenges of life emerge.
You then look around and there could be a disaster going on around you-- but you are like a rock throughout the challenge.
But not until you turn self-abandonment around.
This is a clip of a 90 minute training on how to Regulate
your Nervous System to create stable healthy relationships.
Send me a DM saying "I want the training" and I'll give you a promo code
to make it free.
Grab a tissue, this will deeply impact you and will help you make sense of your relationship challenges.
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