if you don’t have children, and you’re not interested,
please disregard this email.
But if you do, and you want to connected deeper with them…
I invite you to pay attention and consider the possibility
this might get a bit uncomfortable.
We all want to feel connected to our children,
but when we see them acting out, throwing tantrums,
and behaving in ways that cause us to feel ashamed,
often we are at a loss for what to do.
We then feel anxious, triggered, reactive,
and then feel like we are at a loss of control.
This is when discipline and punishment come in
in many households to help to “bring kids back in line”
and make them behave in ways that won’t elicit
such shame and resentment within us.
Unfortunately, from a Trauma-informed lens,
this causes the child to separate from themselves,
to turn on themselves,
and cause them to grow up without loving, trusting, and knowing who they really are,
(And end up hating their parents).
This is often how we were raised.
“Children are to be seen, not heard”
“Spare the Rod, spoil the child.”
There’s a better way that helps us raise children without spoiling them,
while at the same time not having to pass down Intergenerational Trauma
that’s at the root of most anxiety and depression that’s become an Epidemic.
It’s to take on parenting as a SPIRITUAL PRACTICE.
This is what we teach our Cyclebreakers in our community.
If you’re having a kid who you’re having a hard time with,
who you’re triggered by…
Try this on:
They are a reflection of (parts of) you.
There’s a kid inside of you who you’ve abandoned and disowned.
Who you’re ashamed or resentful towards.
Who you’ve stuffed away a long time ago perhaps, never to be seen again.
That part of you is calling to be seen and acknowledged and loved by you.
And since that energy of suppression and repression doesn’t go away,
it gets projected outward and expressed in your own child’s behavior.
And your ego won’t like what you just read there
.
You might even be disgusted by it.
This is the insidious nature of Intergenerational Trauma, and
the Spiritual Nature of life.
"As within, so without."
"Whatever we resist, persists."
"Whatever you bury, buries you.”
When you master the skills of learning how to take what triggers us about our kids,
and use it to integrate, heal, and find love for our younger parts,
the dynamic in our relationships with our kids COMPLETELY shifts.
Some of our students noticed they no longer needed to send their children to a psychologist any longer,
as they now opened channels of communication and understanding.
Without doing the REAL inner work on ourselves, thinking that sending them to a psychologist is helping them,
our kids are going to continue to feel unseen, misunderstood, and feel like they don’t really know who they are,
and there is something wrong with them.
There’s NOTHING wrong with them.
They’re merely reflecting our disowned parts.
The good news is we can learn the art of conscious parenting— which is about raising OURSELVES
while simultaneously helping raise them as well.
It’s not about the child in front of you.
It’s all about the kid inside of you.
And you can learn how to break the cycle of intergenerational trauma you were born into
as long as you have the courage to ask for the right guidance to help lead you there.
Are you ready to break the cycle and take action?
Then join us at our next upcoming event to learn.
Your children will thank you for it.
I promise.
Your guide on the side,
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