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Brace yourselves!

In this episode, we go full-on wholesome rage mode as we dissect the great fall of chivalry, from the days of Maginoo to the mess of modern Mema energy.

We're spilling tea, roasting society (gently but firmly), and delivering truth bombs that might sting…

But only if you’ve been tolerating the bare minimum in your dating life.

P.S. Anne😬's dog, Zeegy is the footsteps heard in the background. 

Twin Energy. Slightly offbeat.

Come for the laughs, stay for the realness.
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REFERENCES

Situationships & Modern Dating Psychology:

• Gibson, L. (2024). The psychology of situationships: Understanding ambiguous relationships. Psychology Today, 15(3), 45-52.
• Kaur, D. (2024). Impact of situationships on mental health: A study of blurred boundaries in modern relationships. Faith Hospital Research Journal, 12(4), 78-89.
• Institute for Family Studies. (2024). Situationships and emotional uncertainty: Mental health impacts in young adults. Journal of Contemporary Relationships, 8(2), 123-137.

Emotional Labor Research:

• Archives of Sexual Behavior. (2024, December). Women's sexual emotional labor assessment: Gender differences in intimate relationships. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 53(12), 2145-2160.
• Berkeley Greater Good Science Center. (2018). Gender differences in leisure time: Time-use surveys analysis. Journal of Social Psychology and Gender, 42(7), 312-328.
• SpringSource Center Research. (2024). Emotional socialization patterns: Gender differences from childhood to adulthood. Developmental Psychology Quarterly, 31(4), 189-205.
• NCBI Study Group. (2023). Gender, emotion work, and relationship quality in same-sex and different-sex relationships. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 40(8), 2456-2471.

Love Bombing & Manipulation:

• Hayes, S., & Jeffries, M. (2016). Love bombing: Addictive attention patterns in romantic relationships. Clinical Psychology Review, 48, 123-134.
• Psychology Today Research Team. (2024). Love-bombing behaviors and narcissistic tendencies: A study of 484 young adults. Psychology Today Research, 18(6), 67-82.

Philippine Dating Culture & Traditional Courtship:

• Andrino, L. (2024, April 16). The ligaw attitude: Traditional vs modern courtship in the Philippines. Medium: Hello, Love. https://medium.com/hello-love/the-ligaw-attitude-traditional-vs-modern-courtship-in-the-philippines-8cfe7606ea0c
• De Vera, A. (2024, February 12). The art of making ligaw: Traditional and modern courtship. LinkedIn Pulse. https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/art-making-ligaw-traditional-modern-courtship-de-vera-d6qzc
• MentalHealthPH. (2021, August 28). The art of making ligaw: Traditional and modern courtship in the Philippines. MentalHealthPH. https://mentalhealthph.org/08-30/
• One Down Media. (2025, March 19). Gen Z Filipinos are choosing "landi" over "ligaw"... Here's why. One Down. https://onedown.media/read/gen-z-filipinos-are-choosing-landi-over-ligaw-heres-why
• TaasNooPilipino. (2024, July 23). Courtship in the Philippines: Traditional practices and modern trends. TaasNooPilipino. https://taasnoopilipino.com/courtship-in-the-philippines-traditional-practices-and-modern-trends/
• Torres, R. N. (2023, January 21). The Philippines then and now: From traditional to modern Filipino courtship. ResearchGate. DOI: 10.13140/RG.2.2.36745.67326

Modern Philippine Dating & Technology:

Academia Research Group. (2025, May 7). Dating apps as digital flyovers: Mobile media and global intimacies in a postcolonial city. Digital Anthropology Journal, 15(2), 234-251.

• De La Salle University. (2024). Examining Filipino's mobile dating app addiction and its effect on their mental health and intention to ghost online. DLSU Behavioral Sciences Research, 8(3), 145-162.
• Rakuten Insight. (2024, August). Philippines: Leading dating apps and user demographics. Statista Digital Market Outlook. https://www.statista.com/statistics/1189223/philippines-leading-mobile-dating-apps/
• Research Synergy Press. (2023, December 31). Self-objectification as a moderating variable between online dating applications use and the mental well-being of Filipino young adults. Humanities, Society, and Community, 4(2), 112-128.
• ResearchGate. (2020, June 30). Mobile sexuality: Presentations of young Filipinos in dating apps. Digital Sociology Review, 7(4), 89-107.

Boundaries and Relationship Health:

• Ackerman, C. E. (2018, September 19). Setting healthy boundaries: Examples & tips for work, life, & relationships. PositivePsychology.com. https://positivepsychology.com/great-self-care-setting-healthy-boundaries/
• American Psychological Association. (n.d.). Boundary. In APA Dictionary of Psychology. Retrieved August 22, 2025, from https://dictionary.apa.org/boundary
• Chanel, M. (2023, June 27). Boundaries in relationships: A guide to setting and maintaining healthy limits. Verywell Mind. https://www.verywellmind.com/boundaries-in-a-relationship-8727891
• Real Simple Editors. (2023, August 29). How to set healthy boundaries: 10 examples and tips. Real Simple. https://www.realsimple.com/health/mind-mood/emotional-health/how-to-set-boundaries

Vulnerability and Love Research:

• Brown, B. (2012). Daring greatly: How the courage to be vulnerable transforms the way we live, love, parent, and lead. Gotham Books.
• Fisher, H. (2004). Why we love: The nature and chemistry of romantic love. Henry Holt and Company.
• Fisher, H. (2016). Anatomy of love: A natural history of mating, marriage, and why we stray (Revised ed.). W. W. Norton & Company.

Relationship Science:

• Gottman, J. M. (1999). The marriage clinic: A scientifically based marital therapy. W. W. Norton & Company.
• Gottman, J. M., & Gottman, J. S. (2017). The natural principles of love. Journal of Family Theory & Review, 9(1), 7-26.

Dating App Behavior:

• Well+Good. (2018, March 7). Women who initiate conversations on dating apps have more successful relationships, according to data. Well+Good. https://www.wellandgood.com/lifestyle/women-initiate-conversation-on-dating-apps-successful

Other References:

• Allen, N. (2023). Lights out. Zando – Slowburn.
• Maehrer, H. N. (2024). [Title not provided]. Entangled Publishing, LLC.

Musical References: 

• Fall Out Boy. (2005). Dirty little secret [Song]. On From Under the Cork Tree. Island Records. 
• Paloma, P. (2023). Labour [Song]. On Cacophony. Nettwerk Music Group. 

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Music Credit:
Music by Joakim Karud soundcloud.com/joakimkarud

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