In this episode, Darren & Paige discuss how to resolve conflict in marriage. Sometimes things work, and sometimes they don't. Not every resolution results in a WIN-WIN solution, sometimes it is just good enough to push the answer until later. Find out how we navigate this part of our marriage.
Finding Solutions to Differences of Opinion
- Express Views - These are not concerns, just views. What is your position
- Explore concerns - Why do you have the idea you do? And what is behind it?
- Select Mutually Satisfying Solutions
- Win-Win -
- Win-Lose -
- Lose-Lose - No one is satisfied
- putting on the shelf for another time. Agree to set it aside.
Rules for Discussing Problems
- Decide on a time and place to talk
- Stay on topic - don't bring up other things.
- Seek to understand instead of arguing - What I hear you saying? Paige gets quiet.
- Let your spouse talk - Paige lets me talk.
- Speak softly - Ha Ha
- Take a break, if necessary - Paige typically calls for the break. While I clean the closest.
- Be kind -
- Use appropriate language - no name-calling
- Discuss current issues - No past issues.
- Do not use violence -
- Do not threaten divorce or separation -
- Seek spiritual help
- Rest and try again
- Find measurable solutions - No general statements, must be observable
- Plan the implementation of the solution
- Agree on Reminders - Nagging or a reminder
- Reevaluate and revise -
Lemonade Moment of the Week
Paige gets to go to Dollywood with her Mom. A life long dream for her Mom.
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