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After years of marriage, our date night consisted of finding a rom-com and falling asleep on the couch. We freshened things up with new date ideas including trying to find something open after 9pm in Folsom. We ended up going to a grocery store and making more healthy brownies. Check out our episode about how to spark excitement in your marriage.

Getting back to dating after a divorce

• When you first start dating after a divorce you don't bring your dates around the kids. So you have to find places to meet.
• Closed restaurants
• Bowling
• Grocery runs at 10pm 
• Movies
• Miniature Golf

Falling into a routine (rut)

• In a blended family, you only have your kids every other weekend so it is hard to go out and leave them.
• The kids like it when we go out. They love having the house to themselves (Scary)
• In a blended family, it is extremely important to have alone time, because you never had a honeymoon with no kids, exes, etc..
• Life gets busy,
• We are tired.
• It is hard to come up with things to do.
• The town closes down at 9pm. 
• What would we do, movie, restaurant or stay at home order Thai food and fall asleep to a rom-com. (Boring)

Resparking the romance

• Three rules of dating your spouse
  • No business talk
  • No money talk 
  • No housework talk
  • No talking about kids
  • No talking about responsibilities.
  • Have fun. Take a break
• Find excuses to do something together, besides watching a movie at home.
• Surprise lunch together
• Take time to be intimate with each other. Schedule it if needed.
• Ideas for Dating your Spouse
  • Try shopping at a new grocery store together for a new recipe. 
  • Miniature golf, Top Golf,
  • Look at the old things that you used to do.
  • Bowling
  • People watch, make things up about peoples lives
  • Hiking, 
  • Dance class (Line dancing)
  • Shopping 
  • Cook together
  • Work together
  • Escape room
  • Painting class together (Bob Ross Painting party)
  • Plan a trip together (Even if you are not going to take it for a while)
  • Create a theme night for a dream trip destination.
  • Play old video game console (Flicky)
• Make sure you do quality time together as well as "work time"

Links

• https://www.urbaneve.co.uk/fun-date-ideas-long-term-couples/