In today's episode, I am once again joined by my husband Aaron. We discuss the differences between infidelity and adultery, including how to rebuild and heal from them.
Infidelity is lying or omitting something, and results in a loss of loyalty and trust. Adultery is the act of cheating on your spouse. Thinking on it, I realized I don't have fidelity with Aaron regarding finances, so Aaron talks to us about why he needed to control finances closely.
We are always taking things on and facing trials. It is important to do your work whether it is with a therapist, counsellor, coach, or God. There has to be fidelity in a relationship and it is crucial to communicate. Don't let things fester – have the conversations and make sure you have a safe space to do so. Realize that you cannot fix the other person, all you can do is love them and work on yourself.
Adultery tends to come from infidelity. Adultery is the symptom and not the root cause. Aaron discusses how our past relationship shows this, and how we worked through it when we got back together. We both had emotional affairs, and I couldn't communicate or hear him when he tried to talk to me about our problems. It almost always takes two to tango.
We all change and develop over time, and that can be a cause of discomfort. It's about creating a safe and secure space for your partner and yourself. If you are both willing to work through it, you can get through anything.
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Aaron on Instagram: @thisisdutcher
The Heal from Infidelity podcast: https://andreagiles.com/understanding-infidelity-with-dr-jennifer-finlayson-fife/
