Welcome back my husband Aaron. We describe the art of self-sabotage as this: the sum of actions and habits formed to protect, and therefore shut down, from that which would propel you forward into growth. I've been thinking about this a lot, because earlier this year I was in a really dark place. My husband joins me in this episode to contribute to the discussion.
Sabotage really is an art form. I've called it out, and I'm aware of it now. This gives me choice. Getting it out really is the first step.
My husband and I have had our share of sabotage moments in our relationship. It was definitely more a part of being young and figuring it all out. Now we're in our 40s and we still see it in other people, and it often comes down to a difficulty with communication. For whatever reason there are things we don't say, but it's not always a conscious decision.
Sabotage can come in many forms, such as busy work, procrastination, or letting other people control your emotions. It's easy to play the victim and let these things destroy what you want or need that day. The end result of sabotage is always regret, and it perpetuates a focus on the past.
Sabotage doesn't always come in the form of negative things, either. Sometimes it's a good thing, but given too much of it is what turns it into sabotage. Take going to the gym for example. It's a perfectly healthy activity, but if you become addicted to working out and you start spending endless hours in the gym, it becomes an unhealthy form of sabotage.
At the end of the day, we always have a say on what the saboteur is or isn't. We can always choose whether we listen to it or not.
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