Heather grew up assuming she would marry a man and have children. So she did. But sex was never a good experience. Then she had sex with a woman for the first time, and her life was changed forever.
Today she lives with her female partner and co-parents her four daughters with her former husband.
She opens up about her early sexual journey through the lens of parenthood, and what she wants for her daughters compared to what she experienced.
Heather is a 45-year-old, cis-gender female who describes herself as lesbian, monogamous, peri-menopausal, and in a long-term domestic partnership. She has four daughters, ages 6 to 15, and describes her body as "a little pudgy".
- Heather's first memory of sexual pleasure is at age five, discovering it felt good when the bath water hit "down there"; this opens up the topic of talking to one's children about masturbation.
- Heather's loss of virginity as a teenager under less-than-great circumstances brings up the issues of consent and assault.
- Heather and Leah talk about the confusion girls feel, often before they realize they are lesbian, around noticing female beauty because our culture teaches us early on to sexualize women.
- The talk turns to body image, and Heather shares that she had a breast reduction at age 15 which helped her comfort and confidence.
- Heather meets her ex-husband at 26. The sex was "vanilla" and "hopefully quick."
- Heather meets a woman she's wildly attracted to, and has a hot 2-week affair with her.
- She and her husband experiment sexually with a lesbian couple. Complications ensue.
- After divorcing, Heather accidentally "outs" herself on Facebook with her new partner.
Audio extras for this episode are FREE for everyone:
- How Heather talks about sex with her daughters – and why she thinks Gilmore Girls is a great teaching tool!
- The Extended Lowdown Q&A
Update:
Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now:
EPISODE CREDITS:
Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email)
Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby
Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco
Transcript creation – Jan Acielo
Music – Nazar Rybak
